Friendships can easily get tested when romantic relationships get involved.

This woman warned her roommate that dating a friend’s ex would upset their social circle.

But her roommate pursued the relationship anyway.

Now, tensions arise in the group, and their friends feel betrayed.

Read the full story below for all the details.

AITA for telling my friend to deal with the consequences of disrespecting girl code?

I (23F) live in a dorm with three other female roommates.

In an adjacent dorm, we have another group of girls that we also hang out with.

For clarity, I will use pseudonyms.

Just for context, we have all been friends for three and a half years of college.

During those three years, my roommate Elle had a boyfriend.

A friend in the other suite, Liz, also had a significant other.

This woman gave some valid advice to her friend.

Six months ago, both relationships ended.

Elle stopped reaching out and suddenly started dating Liz’s ex-boyfriend.

When Elle told me that she had started the relationship, she asked my opinion.

I told her, “If Liz and the other girls find out, they will be annoyed at you for disrespecting girl code.

If you are okay with them being mad at you, then do whatever makes you happy, but accept your consequences.”

She agreed and said her new man made her happy, so it was worth it.

The rest of the group felt betrayed by Elle’s decision.

Fast forward to when Elle finally reveals to Liz that she is dating her ex.

Liz tells Elle, inevitably, “I hate you and never want to see you again.”

Soon after, the rest of the girl group feels very betrayed by Elle’s decision and no longer wants to be friends with her.

Over the past few weeks, Liz will host events that everyone except Elle is invited to.

Now, Elle thinks she’s not being supportive for still hanging out with the other girls.

Elle cries to me that she feels extremely isolated and doesn’t know how to regain Liz’s trust.

I tell her, “I told you there would be consequences to your actions, and there’s nothing I can do to fix that.”

She gets mad at me for not supporting her relationship and her happiness.

She says I must not care about her because I still hang out with the gang.

So, AITA?

Let’s read the responses of other people to this story.

This person makes a valid point.

This one makes sense, too.

Lol. Short and funny.

Worry about what really matters, advises this one.

Finally, here’s a quick lesson for everyone.

Apparently, girl code also exists among girl friends.

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