Food can be pretty personal for some people.

So, what would you do if your best friend’s picky eating and dietary restrictions meant you could never share meals the way you enjoy? Would you keep eating with her anyway? Or would you admit that you don’t want to eat with her anymore?

In the following story, one college student finds herself in this situation and decides to be honest. Here’s what happened.

AITA for telling my friend I won’t have meals with her because of her picky eating habits and dietary restrictions?

I am a 20F from Asia who came to the U.S. for college. Amy (20F) became my best friend here.

We do a lot of things together, including eating meals together regularly on campus.

However, eating in the States hasn’t been very enjoyable for me. I grew up eating family-style meals with 3–4 shared dishes, so I’m used to a variety of flavors. The one-serving-per-person style here makes me get tired of my food very quickly.

She discovered that eating with her boyfriend was much better.

I suggested sharing food with Amy, but it almost never happens because she eats very limited types of food and has allergies. Even when she agrees to “share,” it’s more like trying a few bites rather than actually sharing the meal.

Recently, I’ve been eating almost every meal with my boyfriend. A big reason is that I can share everything with him with no restrictions, and try many new things. I enjoy it so much more.

Amy understands that I eat with him a lot because we’re dating, but she still tries to set up times for us to eat together since it used to be our habit. I kept turning her down politely until she finally confronted me and asked why.

Now, another friend has something to say.

I told her the truth: I only really enjoy food when there’s variety, and because of her picky eating and restrictions, we can’t share food, so we shouldn’t eat together. Amy took it well on the spot.

However, a mutual friend later told me that Amy was upset and said I was wrong for “ditching” Amy as a regular meal buddy.

I was very defensive because my own preferences had been undermined for a long time. That friend still said I was wrong for bluntly saying I wouldn’t eat someone because of their eating habits.

AITA?

Eek! It’s easy to see both sides, but she probably could’ve been nicer with her words.

Let’s check out how the fine folks over at Reddit feel about this situation.

This person thinks friendships are about compromise.

Great question.

For this person, she comes across as greedy.

Here are some thoughts from a fellow Asian.

She needs to grow up because her entitled behavior is pretty next-level.

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