Going to prison is not something that anyone really likes to talk about…

And that includes the people who are married to convicts and ex-convicts.

In today’s story, a woman described why she’s having conflict with her mom about her husband’s prison record.

Let’s take a look at what happened.

AITA for lying to my mom about my husband being in prison?

“I (Female, 29) met my husband about 3 years ago and found out early on in our relationship that he had some pending legal charges for a white collar crime he committed years before we met.

He has brought nothing but joy and happiness to my life, so I decided to stand by him through this tough time, and 100% stand by my decision even through these hard 2 years of separation.

This was gonna be tough…

Fast forward- I was going through a lot of my own emotional turmoil leading up to, and soon after his surrender date. I just didn’t have the emotional capacity to process her infinite questions, doubts, and anxiety.

My siblings all knew about our situation, but we were all worried about my mom’s response. So… when my husband started missing multiple outings and my mom started asking about it, I told her that he was away in Russia taking care of his sick aunt.

Now after I played that for a couple months, dealt with my own emotions and finally came to a place that I felt strong enough to handle her reaction, I decided to write her a very well thought out letter explaining everything.

She decided to come clean.

I knew she would be hurt, I acknowledged and apologized for that, and explained how I needed to protect my own well-being and process everything before taking care of others and their concerns.

In this letter, I also specifically wrote out my boundaries based on what I know my mom would typically do as a response which would throw me over the edge.

Once my mom got this letter, she immediately wanted to get lunch. I told her I would need to wait a couple days because I was sick with the flu.

She then invited herself to my apartment under the guise that she wanted to bring me soup. She stormed into my home (no soup), huffing and puffing about everything, and basically doing everything that I had told her in my letter that I couldn’t handle.

Things escalated in a hurry.

She asked 500 questions and interrogated me until I was breaking down, sobbing on my couch.

When I begged her to please leave and pause this conversation until I was physically well enough to have the conversation she said “well you don’t always get what you want”.

In a last ditch effort to escape a full blown mental breakdown, I started changing into clothes and preparing to leave my apartment, fever and all.

She then told me that even if I left, she wouldn’t go anywhere and we were going to talk about this “like adults”. I told her no, she needed to leave, and she insisted that she would stay.

Jeez!

I then had to threaten to call the police if she wouldn’t leave and she stomped her foot and had me call her an Uber because she wasn’t paying $15 for this.

I completely understand why this hurts her. I knew from the beginning that not telling her right away would have it’s consequences, but I just was not mentally in a space to handle the transition I was going through as well as her emotions to it.

AITA for not telling my mom my husband was in prison?”

Check out what readers had to say about this.

This person had a lot to say.

Another individual said they all SUCK.

This person shared their thoughts.

Another reader weighed in.

And this person said she’s NTA.

She’s definitely not okay with telling her mom about her husband’s past.

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