Managing busy schedules requires careful planning, not flying by the seat of your pants.

So when one mother asked her mother to pick some dates for a summer visit with the grandkids, she refused to commit to anything.

But when she told her mom the trip might not happen, her mother accused her of withholding her grandchildren from her.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for telling my mom she can’t have my kids over summer if she won’t commit to dates?

So my mom wants to have my 2 kids stay with her at some point during this summer. I told her that sounds really nice and we would love that, but I need to know when because I have to report vacation time at the daycare.

There are also lots of other scheduling conflicts.

My boyfriend only has 3 weeks of vacation at the end of summer, so we are planning something there as a family. And my mom is going on vacation then anyway, so realistically there are only 2 weeks where it can actually work for us all.

The problem is I need to tell the daycare soon whether or not the kids are coming so they can plan staff accordingly.

Her mom, however, has resisted any kind of planning in advance.

But my mom doesn’t want to pick any dates since she “doesn’t know what her summer will look like,” which means she wants to wait to see what the weather will be like and if any events are happening.

She thinks her mom owes her a little organization.

To me, I honestly feel like if she really wants to have them over she should just choose some dates she thinks will work and plan the rest of the summer around that.

Just like she planned her vacation in advance. And just like we have to plan daycare and our vacation.

But her mother sees things very differently.

She on the other hand thinks I’m overreacting and says “I can just pull them out of daycare anyway” and that “everyone does that,” despite that not being how it works.

Also, it’s not even a long visit. She doesn’t want them for a longer period of time (which is understandable since she has some health issues) and she doesn’t want them at the same time.

For the oldest, who’s 4.5 years old, she wants him for a couple of days. And the youngest, who is 1 year old, maybe just one overnight visit since she’s never slept away from us alone. (She has slept out places but I have always been with her.)

So soon she gives her mom an ultimatum of sorts, so her mom freaks out.

I told her that if she couldn’t give me some dates soon, then she wouldn’t be able to see them this summer since we can’t plan our lives around her “maybes.”

Now she’s saying I’m “threatening” her with not being able to see her grandkids. Which honestly feels unfair to me and to them.

But this isn’t how she meant it at all.

I’m not saying she can’t see them at all — only that I need her to actually pick some dates so we can make it work. If she can’t do that, then it probably won’t be able to happen this summer.

So AITA for saying she can’t see the kids this summer if she doesn’t give me some dates?

This grandma is being totally unreasonable.

What did Reddit think?

If this grandmother wants to see the kids that badly, then she’ll agree to lock down a date eventually.

Some people just need the planning done for them.

Otherwise, a solid deadline could set a fire under someone.

Maybe her mother’s mindset is just a bit outdated.

Who knew setting a reasonable deadline could make you the villain in the story?

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.