Dress codes are a minefield of a topic that rarely result in everyone walking away happy.

What would you do if your best friend refused to adhere to your wedding rules? One girl recently aired her grievances about this with Reddit. Here’s what happened.

AITA for asking my friend to not wear makeup to my wedding?

I (24F) recently asked my close friend (Devin, 23F) to be a bridesmaid for my wedding.

We’ve been friends since high school and I was very excited to have her by my side.

I put together baskets for my bridesmaids that included a printed list of the dress code for the wedding.

Dress codes can quickly become a touchy subject.

This list included that I wanted them to wear a green dress in any style or shade, silver heels, and light natural makeup.

Devin typically dresses in a very traditional goth style with the white base, heavy black eyeliner, ect.

I love her style and I think she looks absolutely beautiful in it, however, thats not the look I’m going for at my wedding.

That’s a fair enough boundary.

She texted me a few hours after after I gave her the basket saying: “So, I’m not allowed to wear my makeup to the wedding?”

I explained to her that if she wanted to be a bridesmaid she would have to adhere to my dress code, but she was welcome to just come as a guest and dress in her normal style.

She responded basically saying: “If you don’t want me to be myself then I don’t need to be there at all”.

Not a great look after you just got a gift basket.

I told her I wasn’t trying to change who she is, I just want her to match the rest of the bridesmaids for one day.

She got very upset and said I was trying to “aestheticize” all my friends and that I cared more about a photo than my friends’ comfort.

My friends and family are all very mixed on this situation, some saying I was being controlling and purposely excluding Devin while others agree that it’s my wedding and she’s being very dramatic.

Weddings tend to bring out the worst in people.

Devin hasn’t spoken to me since our text conversation, and I’ve heard from mutual friends that she’s saying she’s “not welcome” to my wedding which is just not true.

I feel like I was being very reasonable and even offered a compromise, but I also don’t want to lose a friend over something this small. AITA?

If only friendships had vows “for better or for worse”. Let’s see how the Reddit community weighed in on this one.

The comments were fairly divided, but most were on the bride’s side.

And many were surprised at the division.

One person approached the situation with nuance.

Some even set aside their personal philosophies.

But someone really put the whole thing into perspective.

The ‘happiest day of your life’ doesn’t always come easy.

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