Asking for a low-key birthday and getting a surprise fancy reservation instead is the kind of gift that is really more for the giver than the receiver.

A burnt-out husband told his wife multiple times that he wanted a casual chain restaurant dinner on his birthday. He didn’t want a dress code, he didn’t want reservations — he just wanted to be chill and go with the flow.

But for his Type-A wife, this was a “no can do.”

The day rolled around, and the husband was shocked to discover his request for Olive Garden was supplanted by a reservation for the hottest sushi place in town.

You’ll want to keep reading for the fallout.

AITA for telling my wife forget it and going out by myself for my birthday instead of going to her fancy dinner reservation

This has been an ongoing issue and it came to a head yesterday. My wife is a planner — it is extremely hard for her to just go with the flow.

If we are going to do something, she needs all the details.

So when his birthday came around, there was immediate disagreement over how to celebrate.

A while ago she asked what I wanted to do for my birthday.

I have been burnt out from work, so I told her I just want to go to a chain restaurant around here on my day.

Just a chill night out — I don’t want to get dressed up or anything.

She kept forcing a plan on him, but he wanted to play it by ear.

She asked where and what time, and I told her I’ll just pick based on what I’m feeling that day.

Maybe I want Olive Garden, or maybe I want to get Chinese takeout.

I expressed many times that I don’t want to plan anything and just want to go with the day.

Really, I just wanted to go eat whatever I was feeling that day.

But instead of understanding, she kept pressing him.

This week she asked what time, and I told her when we both get home — so around 5 or 6 — we can go out.

She was frustrated that I wasn’t giving her an answer about where to eat, and I told her multiple times it would depend on what I’m feeling that day.

She asked if we needed reservations and I told her no, multiple times.

He tells her once again what he really wants.

We will be a walk-in on a Wednesday to a chain restaurant.

She asked if I wanted anything fancy and I told her no.

I just wanted a simple night.

That wasn’t the end of the drama, though.

Yesterday was the issue.

I wanted Olive Garden — go home, get some breadsticks, and chill the rest of the night.

I got home around 5 and my wife was all dressed up.

Apparently, she had made other plans without him knowing.

I asked why, and she said she had made reservations for the fancy sushi place in the city.

She said it was a surprise and that we needed to leave in about 20 minutes.

Nothing has sounded so unappealing to me in my life.

He reminds her that this isn’t what he wanted at all, and they begin to argue.

I told her I wanted to go to Olive Garden, and we got into an argument about how she had spent all this effort to get a reservation.

I told her I didn’t want any of this.

In the end, I left to go to Olive Garden by myself.

We got into another argument after I came back.

Did these two people just meet each other?

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Redditors are sure to have some strong opinions on this one.

This commenter thinks the fancy night out was for her all along.

She can’t honor his wishes even for one day? Really?

This reader takes serious issue with the wife’s flimsy argument.

No one wants to be rushed out the door, especially on their own birthday.

Ultimately, his wife only had one job, and that was to sit back, relax, and let him take the lead.

Sure, some people love planning, and everyone has a different comfort level when it comes to ambiguity. But at the end of the day, it was his birthday, and his wife really needed to honor her wishes.

If she wanted the reservation at the fancy sushi place, she could have made it any other day of the year except for the one day he just wanted Olive Garden.

Next year, maybe she could give him the gift of being a good listener.