There is a point in every friendship where you have to decide whether to keep being polite or start being honest.

A woman had spent years navigating her friend’s extreme anxiety. Her paranoia would hold her back from just about everything. She refused to get in Ubers, left dinners early, and demanded her friends’ locations at all times.

The woman had mostly managed to keep her frustrations mostly to herself, but when her friend proposed a Grand Canyon trip and she turned it down, the real reason eventually came out.

Needless to say, it did not land well.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for telling my friend that I don’t want to travel with her is becuase she is scared of the world

My friend (24) has been talking about wanting to go to the Grand Canyon this year.

She wanted me to join her and I told her no.

She found this surprising since I have been wanting to go there.

She asked why I don’t wish to go with her, and I told her it was due to money issues at the moment, but she called bull on that and asked for the real reason.

So she explains what the real reason actually is.

The real reason is because she is terrified of the world in general.

She is afraid to go on planes alone, she is scared of getting an Uber by herself.

Going out, she wants everyone’s location, which I have told her no to multiple times. She literally thinks people are out to get her.

Her friend’s constant anxiety makes her feel more like a babysitter than a peer.

It has been an issue over and over because it feels like she is a child and not a grown adult.

I’m a woman — I get being more cautious, but she goes overboard and her paranoia ruins the outing for me.

She gives yet another example of this.

She once asked us to leave a restaurant because she thought a guy was staring at her.

He was annoyed at the loud table near us.

I have asked her to go to therapy before, but she believes she doesn’t need it.

Turns out, her friend wasn’t really ready to hear the truth.

I told her why, in a much less blunt way, and she was hurt.

We got into an argument and she asked if I would go with someone else, and I told her yes.

She hasn’t responded to my texts since, and I want to know if I messed up.

Sooner or later, this friend needs to realize the impact her unchecked anxiety is having on her friends.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who was totally humiliated when he learned the real reason his friends had ditched him.

What did redditors have to say?

Traveling with friends requires a certain level of compatibility that these two women just don’t have.

Some people just can’t handle the truth.

Maybe it’s a good thing her friend isn’t answering her calls.

Ultimately, maybe this trip just wasn’t meant to happen.

At some point, absorbing someone else’s fear on every outing stops being supportive and starts being a pattern that needs addressing. And this woman had reached this point.

She tried being a caring friend by suggesting therapy and setting fair boundaries, but her paranoid friend pushed back every single one.

She knew that a trip to the Grand Canyon with someone who could barely get in an Uber would be way too much to handle, and at the end of the day, she made the right decision.

Some friendships you just outgrow — and this might be one of them.