Losing a parent can be very difficult and emotional. If you watch a parent suffer through an illness only to lose the battle in the end, it’s natural to grieve, and sometimes that looks like needing to take a step back from your everyday life as it once was for a bit.

Imagine being married to someone whose parent just died. How would you react? Would you comfort them and be there for them in whatever way you could, or would you complain about your own issues?

In this story, one woman just lost her dad to dementia, and she has definitely had a really tough week. But instead of being compassionate, her husband expects her to do all the normal household chores she would usually do and then has the nerve to complain about his own life.

She’s pretty upset but wondering if she’s overreacting. Let’s read all about it.

AIO My Dad died 36 hours ago and I am mad that my husband said he “had a rough week”

My Dad struggled with vascular dementia for the last 4 years.

I was his full time caregiver for 2 years (while working my regular FT job) until my 3 siblings and I agreed he needed to be in Memory Care with full time staff/care.

He had been receiving hospice care the last 6 months and hospice prepared us that he was transitioning to actively dying this past Tuesday and we put him on comfort meds and started our vigil.

She took turns with her family making sure someone was always with her dad.

We didn’t want my Dad to die alone, so between my stepmother and sister we were with him from Tuesday night until he passed on Friday.

I stayed overnight with him 2 of those nights. I wanted to spend as much time as I could (while I could) with my Dad so i would come home, take a shower and a nap and then go back up to see my Dad.

Yesterday, the day after my Dad passed, i went to clear out his room/organize what needs to be thrown out/donated, etc.

Her husband doesn’t seem compassionate at all.

When i came home last night, my husband asked what i was gonna make for dinner.

He keeps asking me today why I seem irritated with him or am being short.

Today, I’m having to do the normal housework (laundry, dishes, meal prep) by myself and when I said I was going to lay down, husband came too since he has had “a rough week.”

I walked out of the room and had to take a lap around the neighborhood. AIO?

What a jerk, the husband, I mean.

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Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

Here’s a suggestion to talk to him about it.

This person thinks the husband’s behavior is horrible.

One person sees villain energy.

Nobody thinks she’s overreacting.

Obviously, we know nothing about what the husband’s week was like. It’s possible that he had a particularly horrible week that under other circumstances would warrant him saying that he had a rough week. But, read the room, man. You don’t tell your wife you had a rough week when she literally sat by her dying father’s bedside all week!

My guess is that the husband thinks he had a rough week because his wife wasn’t home as much as usual. Maybe he had to fend for himself when it came time to eat. Based on the fact that he expects her to make dinner like everything is normal, he doesn’t seem used to taking care of himself.

I don’t think she’s overreacting at all, but her husband probably is clueless and doesn’t understand how much his words hurt her. Talking to him about it might help. I like the comment that suggested asking him why his week was rough and then explaining to him why her week was really rough.