Sometimes, the things that mean the most to us don’t look all that special to anyone else.

This family member recently found that out after bringing a small penguin plush to a family gathering.

The little penguin had been hanging from her backpack ever since a close friend gave it as a goodbye gift, so it carried a lot of sentimental value.

Everything was fine until her 8-year-old nephew asked if he could keep it.

Of course, the answer was no, but an offer to buy him a similar plush didn’t make things any better.

Once the tears started, several family members decided the sentimental gift was “just a toy” and expected it to be handed over.

Take a look at the full story below and see where you stand.

AITA for not giving my nephew pengu plush from my backpack?

I have a little plush penguin hanging on my backpack. It is not expensive, but it means a lot to me.

A close friend of mine who lives in another country gifted it to me because he knows I love that penguin toy brand. We don’t see each other very often, and he gave me this penguin on the last day before he left the last time we saw each other.

Since then, it’s always been on my backpack.

Unfortunately, the child didn’t want something else.

Yesterday, I was at my sister’s for a family lunch. My nephew (8) saw the penguin and asked to take a look.

I let him touch it, but I didn’t take it off my backpack because kids lose things in two seconds.

A couple of minutes later, he asked if he could keep the penguin. I said no, but that I could find him a similar one or buy another cute plush next time.

He started saying that he wanted exactly this one because “this one is already my friend.”

She tried to explain it to the child, but then people started looking at her.

I tried to calmly explain that it was a gift from a friend and that’s why I wouldn’t give him this particular penguin.

At first, my sister told him, “You can’t just ask for other people’s things.”

But when he started crying, the adults started giving me strange looks. My mom quietly said to me it was “just a toy on a bag” and that since the child is eight, he doesn’t understand sentimental value.

Then, her sister approached her in private.

I said even so, adults must understand why I don’t want to give it away.

My nephew cried for about ten minutes.

Then my sister said to me in private that I’d made the child cry over a stupid plush toy and could have just given it to him and then asked my friend to send a similar one. It makes me feel bad, as I love my nephew, but I wouldn’t give this toy to him anyway because it is an important memory.

It also upsets me that my little gift became “just a toy” simply because the adults found it uncomfortable to hear a child crying and couldn’t handle the situation.

AITA?

Wow! That whole thing sounds pretty rude.

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Let’s see how the fine folks over at Reddit feel about it.

Here’s an excellent point.

According to this reader, the sister is in the wrong.

It does sound like that.

She did do him a favor.

It really seems like the adults made this situation worse than it needed to be.

An 8-year-old is old enough to understand that not everything belongs to him and that sometimes the answer is simply no.

Once the adults started treating a sentimental gift like it was “just a toy,” they shifted the focus away from teaching that lesson and onto getting the child what he wanted.

It’s hard not to wonder if the tears lasted as long as they did because he knew someone would eventually try to change the answer. That doesn’t help anyone in the long run.

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