Helping family through a crisis is one thing. Watching them cash in on that same crisis twice is another.

A man loaned his brother money to cover an emergency surgery bill in full, and thought that was the end of it. It wasn’t.

Days later, he spotted his brother and sister-in-law in the family group chat making plans to apply for the hospital’s charity program, a fund specifically set aside for low income and impoverished families.

The thing is, the bill was already paid… with his money.

But when he called it out in the family group chat, the rest of his relatives quickly took his brother’s side.

You’ll want to keep reading for this one.

AITAH for calling out my brother’s “selective” poverty?

My brother suddenly called me last week in a panic, asking for a loan to cover an emergency surgery.

Wanting to do the right thing, this person agreed, but challenged him a bit about his finances.

I love my brother, so I naturally agreed and loaned him the money so he could pay the bill in full, but not before calling him out that if he could afford taking his family to a vacation in Europe he should have an emergency fund to cover his own medical bills, instead of treating me like a bank.

He was defensive, but took the money anyway.

I thought that was the end of it, but today things took a weird turn.

Things definitely weren’t adding up.

In our family group chat, I saw my brother and his wife discussing plans to apply for the hospital’s charity case, benefits specifically reserved for low-income and impoverished families.

Remember, I already loaned him the money to pay the bill in full.

So when he calls his sibling out yet again, the rest of the family took his side.

When I called them out in the chat for trying to game the system and take resources away from people who actually need them, the family turned on me.

They’re getting the whole thing wrong.

Now, I’m being painted as the villain for “policing their finances,” being heartless during a medical crisis, and bringing up the vacation again.

I already gave them the money, but I refuse to pretend their behavior is okay.

AITA?

No one expects to be scammed by their own family, but that’s exactly what happened here.

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Reddit is sure to have some strong opinions on this.

This user tries to give the sibling the benefit of the doubt.

This user sees the whole thing as a scam.

Having a sensible emergency fund would have saved everyone a world of hurt.

This family seems quite dysfunctional at its core.

Nobody’s saying the surgery wasn’t stressful. Medical emergencies are awful and the panic that comes with them is real.

But the obvious disconnect is the idea that a family who can fund a European vacation and borrow from a relative counts as the target demographic for hospital poverty relief.

The generous man who decided to spot him the money shouldn’t be punished for refusing to submit to an unjust situation. His family was likely only okay with the sibling’s duplicity because they weren’t the ones losing money.

His family showed their true colors and his trust is already broken — and it’s not going to be easy winning it back.

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