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When you’re living in someone else’s home, how much say should you get over what happens inside it—especially when the homeowner has made her wishes perfectly clear?

One man says his 87-year-old grandmother asked him to install a camera in her living room after he and his wife moved out of her house. The purpose was simple: Grandma spends most of her time there, and the camera would allow OP to check on her in case she fell or needed help.

There’s just one problem. OP’s aunt moved in to help care for Grandma, and she apparently hates the camera so much that she keeps unplugging it. After OP mounted it back on the wall with a note telling his aunt not to touch it, the disagreement exploded—with his aunt claiming the camera violated her privacy and threatening to move out unless it disappeared.

AITAH for refusing to take down a camera at my nanas house, that my nana asked to have there?

So a little bit of backstory first, I, a 23 year old male was living with my nana since 2019 when I moved out of my parents house because it was a toxic environment.

I got married last April and my wife, 21 year old female and I were staying with my nana until February of this year when we found a house for ourselves we moved in on the 15th of February and needed someone to stay with my nana to make sure she would be okay.

My nana, 87 year old female gets around good and doesn’t need help with most things, so when we moved out my aunt Kim, 57 year old female (my nanas daughter) told us she was going to move in with her to help.

Sounds like a good plan.

Fast forward to now and last night I went over to my nanas house to fix the camera for her again and re-add it to the blink account, that camera is in the living room where nana spends most of her time and it is only there because she wants it to be in case she fall while getting out of her chair and I have to constantly fix it and reset it because my aunt Kim unplugs it against my nanas wishes.

So when I went over yesterday I mounted it back to the wall and put a note for Kim that says do not unplug.

Well me and my wife are at home last night and I get a call from Kim and I answer the phone to her screaming at me to take this camera down and that it’s an invasion of her privacy.

Yikes.

I’m not going to lie me and Kim don’t get along well so I was a little rude in telling her that I will only take it down if nana wants me too, which she does not.

I will also add that since moving in Kim has completely changed everything in nanas house and is always telling nana that she’s wrong and her and nana constantly get in arguments, nana has told me, my sister, and my mom that she would rather be in a nursing home than to have to live with her daughter.

When I told Kim why the camera was there she said that nana would be more likely to fall in the bathroom or her bedroom, to which I replied that I am not putting a camera in either of those rooms because that would be a real invasion of privacy, and if she wanted to move out then that was her choice.

Oh brother.

Kim then gave me and ultimatum saying that if the camera stays she is leaving.

It is not her house or her camera it is my nanas, if my nana wanted it taken down I would have no problem taking it down but she wants it there for me to keep and eye on her, she asked me to put it up when my wife and I moved out.

So Reddit AITA for telling my aunt Kim that I will not take the camera down in the living room because that’s not what my nana wants?

The verdict was overwhelmingly NTA, with commenters focusing on one crucial detail: it’s Grandma’s house, and Grandma wants the camera there.

Readers understood why OP’s aunt might not love being on camera in the home where she lives, but they argued that doesn’t give her the right to repeatedly unplug something the homeowner specifically requested for her own safety. If living with the camera is a dealbreaker for the aunt, commenters felt she’s free to follow through on her ultimatum and find somewhere else to live.

Many were actually more concerned about Grandma’s comments that she’d rather move into a nursing home than continue living with her daughter. Combined with the aunt reportedly changing things around the house, arguing with Grandma and disregarding her wishes about the camera, commenters felt OP and his family should be paying close attention to whether the current living arrangement is actually helping Grandma.

Others suggested looking into additional safety measures that don’t compromise privacy, particularly for areas where a camera would obviously be inappropriate. But as far as the living-room camera goes, commenters saw little reason OP should remove something his grandmother specifically asked him to install.

Ultimately, the aunt may live there, but it isn’t her house—and threatening to leave doesn’t suddenly give her the final say.

This person says it’s Nana’s house, so Nana’s rules.

This person has some good advice going forward.

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And this person says Kim needs to GO.

If Grandma wants a safety camera in Grandma’s living room, the person threatening to move out over it may have just solved the problem herself.