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Family loans have a funny way of never actually getting repaid.
One man, comfortable enough that a couple thousand dollars wouldn’t put a dent in his life, is stuck weighing a request from his financially irresponsible sister ahead of her wedding. But the last time he lent her money, it simply never came back.
Now she’s asking again, this time for a bigger amount, with other family members reportedly owed money too.
He’s not worried about the cost necessarily. He’s worried about becoming the family’s permanent financial cushion with zero consequences attached.
You’ll want to keep reading for this one.
WIBTA for refusing to lend my sister €2,000 when she never paid back the €1,000 from two years ago?
My sister (23F) is getting married in a few months and asked me for €2,000.
She says she miscalculated the budget and an insurance payment came in way higher than she expected.
This isn’t the first time his sister has asked for money.
Two years ago I lent her €1,000. She said a few months, no problem. I’ve never seen a cent of it.
The money isn’t the problem. I have it, giving her €2,000 wouldn’t hurt me at all.
He’s starting to resent his sister’s dependence on him.
What bothers me is that I’m basically her overdraft account, and she’s never had to deal with the consequences of running out of money.
If I hand it over again, nothing changes. I know that she has also debts with other family members.
Now he faces the difficult decision on what to do next.
So I’m (38M) thinking of saying no, or saying yes.
Part of me thinks that’s a fair boundary. Part of me thinks I’m about to be the guy who made a fuss over money right before his sister’s wedding.
WIBTA if I say no?
Something has to give here.
What did Reddit have to say?
This user thinks he shouldn’t expect to ever see this money back.
Maybe it’s time to start thinking of the money more as a gift than a loan.
It’s clear to this user this woman is just looking for a handout.
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Her sister is thinking about money all wrong.
Being able to afford something and being obligated to give it away are two completely different things.
It’s not like an unpaid loan from two years ago is ancient history. He has every right to be skeptical of his sibling after she pulled a stunt like this.
Handing over even more money without ever addressing the first debt is basically just funding the exact behavior that got them in this whole situation.
Saying no here isn’t about the money. It’s about finally letting consequences catch up.