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Picking out a birthday gift is supposed to be a casual endeavor, not a long, drawn-out fight.
One aunt has spent past birthdays carefully choosing gifts for her niece based on their conversations, only to watch those gifts sit unopened, get returned, or get donated months later.
With another birthday coming up and a teenager’s tastes shifting constantly, a gift card started to feel like the obvious, practical choice.
Her sister disagreed, framing it as impersonal and worrying it would make her daughter feel like an afterthought instead of someone thoughtfully considered.
Read on for the ensuing debate over sentiment versus practicality.
WIBTA if I give my niece a gift card for her birthday instead of something more personal
I’m trying to figure out whether it would be rude to get my niece a gift card this year.
She’s turning 15, and honestly her tastes change every few months, so I figured a card would let her pick whatever she actually wants without me guessing wrong again.
She admits she hasn’t always had the best track record for buying gifts for her niece.
Last time I tried to get her something I thought she’d love, it sat in a drawer unopened for six months before she quietly donated it.
A gift card feels like a way to make sure the money actually gets used on something useful.
But soon her sister started getting in her head about the whole idea.
My sister thinks that’s too impersonal and says it makes it look like I don’t want to put any thought into it.
She keeps bringing up how our mom always picked out specific things and how much those meant, even if they weren’t exactly what we asked for.
She worries her daughter will feel like just another obligation instead of someone I care about picking for.
Now the woman is conflicted on what to do next.
I get her point, but the last few gifts I chose based on our talks either got returned or never used.
Giving a card seems like the practical move, especially since she’s old enough to know exactly what she wants.
I just don’t want to start any family drama over a birthday present, so I’m stuck on what the better call is.
You can’t go wrong with a gift card.
What did Reddit have to say?
Maybe cash is another good option here.
Some suggestions deserve to be ignored.
Maybe her sister is out of touch with what teenagers actually want.
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Her sister really shouldn’t be dictating what gifts she can and can’t give.
A gift that goes unused doesn’t automatically carry more meaning just because it took extra effort to pick out.
Considering this woman’s track record of returned and donated gifts, she should really be trusting her own instincts instead of entertaining outside opinions.
A little practicality isn’t a betrayal of family tradition. Sometimes it’s just common sense.