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Claiming you’re over someone and then acting like their new relationship is a personal betrayal is definitely not the behavior of someone who’s actually moved on.

One college student found that out the hard way when his buddy pursued a girl in their friend group. When he got turned down, he seemed to take it well at first.

But when this student ended up dating this girl instead, his buddy treated the whole thing as a huge breach of trust.

Everything culminated in a dramatic argument, which led to his buddy cutting off the friendship for good.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for getting with someone that friend “used to like” and “breaking bro code?”

I’m in college and in a friend group of about 10 people. At the beginning of the semester, one of my guy friends, Chance, had a crush on one of the girls in our circle, Brenda, and all the boys and I fully supported him to try and go for it.

Needless to say that the girl isn’t interested in him and only as a friend. He still was chasing after her after knowing she’s not interested.

But soon, their friend group splintered.

A couple months later, our friend group was basically split in half because of some drama between Brenda and another girl. Chance said that he did not like her at all because of what she did to our other friend.

This put this student in a tough spot, but he did his best to manage it.

I then began balancing between hanging out with the 2 sides when it comes to just hanging out or study sessions, as I was more neutral.

I started hanging out with the group with Brenda more. I never actively tried to pursue her. I just saw her as a friend, but she is attractive. We developed some sort of feelings for each other and having a thing.

Everyone started getting the hint that we were a thing after another month. The boys were asking me questions about me and Brenda, and I told them plainly what happened.

So when Chance learned about these new romantic developments, he wasn’t happy.

Chance started getting infuriated, and eventually said, “Bro, you went after the girl I liked. You broke bro code. You’re a fake homie.”

I told him, “I never planned on this happening, it just did. I was trying to support you to go after her, but she wasn’t into you. And that whole drama, you said that you did not like her anymore because of what she did to one of the girls.”

Chance isn’t sympathetic to his excuses at all, so the student continues to push back.

He replies, “That doesn’t matter, dude. You don’t go for girls that your friend likes or even used to like.”

I was like, “That’s not how bro code works. Bro code is not getting with a girl that is your bro’s ex or is currently trying to pursue. I never had a secret agenda on her and even gave you advice on how to pursue her when you did like her. You said you don’t like her anymore, you stopped pursuing her and never went anywhere with her. What happened between us just happened naturally. Because you’re getting mad, I’m assuming you still got feelings for this girl?”

Still, there’s absolutely no reasoning with him.

And he said, “Nah, I don’t, but just the principle between us as friends.”

So at this point, he stopped being friends with me because of that.

Did I break “bro code” or is he doing too much and probably still has feelings for her? Or maybe my choice of words was too harsh?

Chance really needs to get a grip.

Redditors are sure to have a thing or two to say about this.

This user tells it like it is.

There’s no substitute for clearly and plainly stating your feelings.

This user wonders what’s really going on inside Chance’s head.

Chance may not have liked the final outcome, but he still has to accept it anyway.

There’s no version of “bro code” that requires permanent ownership over someone you’ve explicitly said you’re no longer interested in, which is exactly the standard Chance tried to invent after the fact.

He wasn’t secretly still pursuing Brenda; he wasn’t kept in the dark about anything. As far as this college student knew, he no longer wanted anything to do with her. But that clearly wasn’t the truth.

At a certain point, Chance needs to accept the truth, no matter how painful it is.

You can’t call dibs on a person.