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Lending money to family always comes with the underlying risk that the loan might never be repaid.

One man agreed to lend his brother $4,000 for wedding expenses, with a clear agreement that it would be paid back within a year.

When the deadline came and went, his brother pushed the timeline further, citing wedding costs as the reason for the delay. But when he announced he booked a $6,000 vacation, it was abundantly clear his brother was full of it.

So when he brought it up, his brother brushed it off entirely, insisting he simply didn’t want to think about debt while enjoying his life.

The rest of the family soon got involved, and somehow he ended up the villain for simply expecting to be repaid.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for asking my brother to pay back the money I gave him for his wedding?

I’m 30M and my brother is 27M.

Last year my brother was getting married and was short about $4,000. He asked if I could lend it to him.

At the time, he was happy to help, but this turned out to be a mistake.

I said yes, but I told him I’d need it back within a year. He agreed.

A few months ago I reminded him about it, and he said he’d start paying me back after his wedding expenses were settled.

Clearly his brother had no trouble spending money on other things.

Then last week I found out he and his wife had just booked a $6,000 vacation.

I asked him about the $4,000.

His sibling, of course, brushed this off like a pro.

He said, “Bro, it’s not like I don’t have the money. I just don’t want to think about debt while I’m enjoying my life.”

I told him that’s literally what debt is.

He got annoyed and said I was acting like his bank instead of his brother.

He pushes back even stronger this time.

I said, “You asked me for a loan. Banks also expect the money back.”

Now my parents think I’m being petty because I clearly don’t need the $4,000 urgently.

My brother says I embarrassed him by bringing it up right after he announced the vacation.

I don’t think asking for money back after the agreed deadline is unreasonable.

AITA here?

Why are the parents always so spineless in these stories? Hold your son accountable!

What did Reddit have to say?

“Exploitation” is the word this commenter uses.

It’s clear this sibling doesn’t really know how to manage his money.

Finances and family should rarely mix.

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This commenter agrees this man should be more careful next time.

A loan doesn’t stop being a loan just because the person who owes it would rather not think about it. What kind of ridiculous excuse is that?

At the end of the day, this man was punished for trying to be a good person. And clearly his parents weren’t willing to come to his defense when he really needed it.

An agreement is an agreement, and his brother totally stomped all over it.