His Homeless Ex Asked to Move In—His Refusal Left Him Wondering If He Took Things Too Far

Sarrah Murtaza

8 minutes ago

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How weird is it when random people comment on situations that have nothing to do with them?

This guy shares how his friends told him to let his cheating ex stay with him because she’s homeless.

AITAH for doing nothing to help my son’s homeless mother because she cheated on me?

I (28m) have a 5 year old son with my ex (27f) and we’re no longer together because she cheated on me. She also has a son from the last time she cheated on me and he’s 2.

His father is no longer in the picture and from what info she gave me, he’s responsible largely for leaving the two of them homeless.

Watch how things get worse…

I have custody of our son while my ex has nowhere to go. She sees him a couple of times a week and after five months of homelessness there is no sign of things improving.

Throughout this whole thing I have refused to engage in conversations about her situation and I keep all discussion to our son and when she’s visiting. She has asked me for help several times.

She has cried when our son was out of the room and begged me to help her and her other son and to consider working on us so we could be a family.

I was blunt with her the one time I responded and I told her it was never going to happen.

My reason for being so cold with her is all about her cheating multiple times. I didn’t know when we were together that she was cheating repeatedly.

She’s being so unreasonable!

I found out about all the cheating at the very same time and it’s when I learned her unborn child wasn’t mine. It even made me worry about our son and I DNA tested him, and thankfully he’s mine.

At the time she felt no guilt and she told me her other son’s father was a real man and not some weak dude who was happy to live a boring life.

Turns out the real man cheated and gambled all through their relationship and now she’s homeless with the child they made together and she wants me to pick up the pieces.

For our son’s sake I play friendly when he’s in the room but outside of that I want nothing to do with her and her son.

She doesn’t bring him to her visits with our son because she doesn’t want him to feel bad because I won’t take him under my wing.

There is nothing he can do about this…

But she has repeatedly asked me to help them.

I could afford to help her pay rent and I even technically have space in my house for them to stay with me. But after everything she did I don’t want to.

And I don’t want her son to start looking at me as a father figure. I’ll never be his father figure or his uncle figure or any kind of familial figure.

And I don’t want my ex getting comfortable with the idea that I’ll bail her out.

That’s INSANE!

Someone who used to be a mutual friend of both of ours knows the situation and decided to speak out against my decision saying we are forever tied because of our son and I should help his mom and half brother for him.

I should want him to grow up with all of his family happy and healthy and safe. There were several other things they said but the primary focus was I should help my ex find a way to provide a home for both children.

I don’t agree that it’s my job but I can also understand my negative feelings for my ex might be clouding my judgement so here I am.

AITAH?

WHAT? That’s so unsettling!

Why would she expect anything from him after being so unfaithful all this time?

Let’s find out how people on Reddit reacted to this one.

Exactly! This user thinks this guy should just ask his friends to help her if they want to.