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Nobody likes every dish, but sometimes you have to either eat it anyway or find something for yourself.

What would you do if your mother made one of the few dishes that you hated for dinner, but she didn’t tell you ahead of time that this is what she was making, so you couldn’t prepare something else? Then, when you didn’t thank her for the meal, she got upset about it, causing an argument?

That is what happened to the young man in this story, and he doesn’t think he needed to thank her since he won’t be eating it anyway, and now he won’t be able to have dinner.

Personally, I think he could have handled it better, but I do understand why he is upset. Check out the full story below and see what you think.

AITA for refusing to eat the curry my mum made and telling her I’m not thankful?

I (M19) and my mum (F48) just had an argument where she accused me of being ungrateful.

Not everyone likes every dish.

She made chicken curry for dinner tonight. My family has known for years that I hate curry, the smell and taste genuinely make me feel physically sick.

I’m not a picky eater at all, I’ll eat almost anything else, including plenty of things my parents won’t touch. The only curry I can stomach is Thai red.

She is an excellent cook.

My mum doesn’t throw meals together last minute. She plans dinners days in advance and genuinely loves cooking. This wasn’t an “oops, nothing else in the house” situation. She knew I wouldn’t eat it, but made it the main meal anyway.

Worth saying, I can cook fine, that’s not the issue. We just don’t usually do separate meals, it’s cheaper on both food and electricity for one person to cook for the whole house, and my mum loves cooking (she used to be a chef, trained under a Michelin star chef), so she does the vast majority of it.

This is inconvenient. Hopefully they have other food in the house.

That’s normally a good arrangement. Tonight it just meant I had no fallback when the one meal being made was something I can’t eat.

I didn’t find out until it was actually served. I was outside working in a converted shed/outbuilding attached to the house, I use it as a work area because the house itself is so noisy you can hear people talking two floors away so I can’t focus inside.

So I had no idea what she was cooking until dinner was already on the table.

Maybe he can go out to eat.

My real issue isn’t even that she made curry. It’s that she didn’t tell me what she was planning. Earlier today I’d gone to the corner shop to get milk for her. If I’d known curry was on the menu, I’d have grabbed something for myself while I was there.

And it’s not like I could just throw something else together once I found out. We do a big shop once a month, most of our meat, fruit, veg and honey comes from a local farm, and we only hit the supermarket for small extras.

This is definitely unfortunate.

Right now, the house has herbs, spices, flour, milk, sugar, salt, pepper, butter, and some sauces. That’s it. No meat, no bread, no eggs, no cereal, no fruit, and no vegetables and even if I wanted to be unhealthy there isn’t even crisps, chocolate, ice cream, or biscuits.

There is quite literally nothing else edible in the house, and our next big shop isn’t until tomorrow.

He could still thank her for the effort.

It’s late, we live in a small village with no takeaways that deliver, the shop’s closed, and I’ve no way to get to town. I have literally zero options.

When I picked up the plate, she said “you’re welcome” waiting for me to say thanks (I always thank her for food she makes), when I didn’t respond and went to leave the kitchen, she stood in the doorway and said “aren’t you gonna say thank you?”

Mom is overreacting.

I told her I wasn’t thankful for a meal she knew I couldn’t eat without being sick, so she called me ungrateful.

AITA?

While he should always be polite, Mom should have made him something else, or at least given him a warning about what she was making.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say.

This type of thing can cause food issues for life.

All he wanted was a heads-up.

He is not obliged to be thankful for something he can’t eat.

Here is a mom who knows each kid has different tastes.

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This commenter is shocked that any mother would do this.

Why wouldn’t she at least warn him about what she is making? Especially since she plans meals multiple days in advance.

There needs to be more context to the story, but it seems like this might actually be intentional on her part.