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Not everyone is a billionaire with mega-rich friends and acquaintances. Meaning, destination weddings sound so romantic and movie-like until the bill arrives, especially when the guests are expected to travel to those destinations without any financial aid.
In a woman’s case, her partner’s sibling was originally planning a wedding close enough that attending would be expensive but still manageable. Then they changed their minds and decided to go for a destination wedding.
But now they expect everyone to survive and adapt to attend their wedding.
But they had to tell the family that they won’t be able to attend.
Read the full story below.
AITA /AWTA For Not Going To An Expensive Destination Wedding
My partner’s sibling is getting married next summer. Initially this wedding would be completely manageable.
A wedding in a location near us. Can easily drive there.
At most we would be spending for bachelorette party costs, attire, wedding and shower gift, and a hotel room or Airbnb.
Expensive as is, but manageable with what we have planned for the next year
For additional context, we also have talked about getting engaged soon.
So they will have expenses of their own soon.
Our plans would be to elope to save on unreasonable wedding costs. At most, engagement party or backyard bbq style wedding. Easy, cheap and low expectations for our guests.
His sibling is….different. Which is totally fine because your wedding, your choice. I totally respect that.
But since getting the quote back from the venue they decided they want to pivot and do a destination wedding.
Again totally fine, but here’s the kicker.
Just the flights for us to go, looking into off-season prices is $3600. (Mind you, the prices we cannot see yet but it’s peak season for the particular destination)
Yikes. They literally can’t responsibly attend.
That’s not to include bach parties, shower gifts, attire, etc.
With our own plans and other obligations in mind (two weddings we are also standing in, our own engagement/wedding) we are completely appalled at the cost of this.
However his family has the mentality of “well it’s YOUR sibling’s wedding, you’re standing up and you better start saving now” and “well you can make it a longer, Europe trip” even though they are aware of the costs and how expensive this is.
They’re between a rock and a hard place.
We have discussed this and we are not in a position to even just send him out there because again, spending $3k+ between flights, bach parties, and other wedding costs was never in the cards for us.
Wedding culture is extremely volatile and so hard to find a middle ground between what is acceptable as far as obligations go without stepping on toes.
We are fully aware it is his sibling, but we are both not willing to spend that kind of money on our wedding, let alone someone else’s.
AITA?
Sometimes you just have to be the *******. What did Reddit think?
Someone shares their thoughts.
They should understand this.
Exactly.
Another commenter shares their opinion.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who finally blew up after years of being treated as the second-best sibling.
Yup.
Anyone who decides to have a destination wedding should understand that some people aren’t going to be able to attend. In this case, a sibling.
So really, they should decide what’s more important to them: everyone being able to attend, or having a fancier event.