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Have you ever been friends with a guilt-tripper?
I’m talking about someone who will never take no for an answer and they apply pressure without mercy when they want you to do something?
It’s totally exhausting!
And it seems like there’s simply no way to win with these folks…
The guy who wrote today’s story knows all about it and he’s pretty ticked off that his buddy expects him to pay for a flight that he didn’t even want to take in the first place.
Yowza!
Let’s see what’s going on here…
AITA for refusing to pay for a trip I was tricked to be on?
“I (27 M) was tricked to be on a bachelors trip by my friend (27M) and then he asked me to pay for the flight tickets and I refused.
Let me start from the beginning, one of my close school friends is getting married and so a bunch of the guys have been trying to organize a bachelors trip for him.
This is already a disaster…
The problem is that they hadn’t figured out where it was going to happen even 3 weeks before the trip.
They finally decided where, but they had planned it so the majority of the trip is on the weekday (because that was convenient for them)
This is very inconvenient for me as this is the busiest month of work so I told him I wasn’t coming.
Dude…
One day the bachelor calls me and tells me he really wants me to come.
I told him this trip is planned terribly and it’s really gonna cause issues if I take leaves.
He then informs me that he had already booked the flight for me to come.
This really annoyed me because he didn’t consider my situation or even take no for an answer and forced me into it, but since he really wanted me there and it was coming from a place of care I let it go.
This sounds awful!
A week before the trip all of us are on a video call and I mention this forced trip and he laughs and says “actually I hadn’t booked the fight until after the call with you, I just told you that so you would come on the trip”
This was very upsetting and made every other stress of the week worse. It was set up in between the most busiest workweek of the year with a lot of travel involved and he took advantage of my compassion for him to make me come on this trip.
On top of that he has booked a 6 am flight which means I have to leave home by 4:30 am. I only reached home from a work trip by 10:30 the previous night, and he calls me at 11 to bring him food from a specific joint to the airport.
I don’t get any cabs until I’m running 20 minutes late, I reach the airport just as the flight door closes and have to book a flight at 12 pm later in the day to get to the place.
Wow…it just keeps getting worse…
I’m very annoyed and we have an argument and he apologized after (I don’t know if he just said sorry to shut me up to since he’s clearly a liar) but when we are going back home I see that he has asked me to pay for the flight I missed, which he lied to me to get me to come on.
I refused to pay. I said I’ll pay for the flight back and I had already paid for the 12 pm flight I took so I don’t see the reason to pay for this one.
I’ve been ranting about this to everyone but most people, including my friends and my parents have been saying that I’m making too much of a big deal about this.
The only person who seems to understand how much it bothers me is my partner even though she says she wouldn’t be as bothered by this if it was a close friend.
I’m very confused because I feel justified in my feelings and actions but others seem to think I’m taking things too far. AITA?”
Reddit users shared their thoughts.
This person weighed in.
Another Reddit user said they all SUCK.
This person said she’s NTA.
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And this reader said it’s his fault.
His friend sounds like a real piece of work…
But he needs to put his foot down!
Come on dude, BE A MAN.
This guy needs to grow a backbone and learn how to say NO.