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Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to traveling, and when your preferences don’t match your spouse’s, it can cause problems.

What would you do if you and your husband had opposing preferences when it comes to traveling, and he seems unwilling to compromise while on a vacation?

That is what the wife in this story is dealing with, so she is thinking about telling him that they need to take separate holiday trips from now on, but doesn’t want to cause conflict.

Personally, I think that is just one option. She could also just go off and do her own thing on a shared trip. Read through the full story below and see what you think she should do.

WIBTAH if I asked my partner to go on holiday alone from now on

I (38F) am currently travelling wirh my husband (33M) and toddler (4M).

Having different travel preferences can make vacations a challenge.

My husband and I have very different travel styles, he likes relaxing to the point of staying inside the hotel motionless. I love adventure, hiking, activities, theoutdoors, etc. This has caused arguments in the past.

We had many conversations about this, and took great care to understand each others relaxation style. Before this holiday I even did a “corporate” meeting to establish our goals for the trip and what is inportant to us (yeah, I am gently autistic). I thiught we were on the same page this time.

Her husband is ruining these activities for her and their son.

However, he has started doing this thing where he doesn’t want to something he unilaterally decides we are not doing it, OR does it but makes it clear he doesn’t want to be there and rushes everything.

This includes things that me and my toddler could do together while he stays behind, but decides to join anyway. He is also really overly cautious with our son who is an active and curious guy.

They really don’t have to do everything together.

My husband is a great guy, but he is really overprotective in my opinion, when our son is trying new physical things.

Today, we are out in a resort place with a specific attraction that is kid friendly and adventurous. Since this morning he announced he is “at the point of the trip where he just wants to rot inside,” I accept this is fine and suggested multiple things he could do while me and my toddler go have fun.

Maybe it is time to tell him what she will be doing, rather than asking.

He says its ok he will go to the attraction with us. Since that announcement I tried to do some stuff and he kept saying no to literally everything, including: walking 2 minutes instead of driving, timing of going to the attraction, what drink to get my toddler – i mean ev-ry-thin-gah.

I asked him to please consider me and try to go along with some of what I want to do, or stay behind. He expressly agreed to this. Then turned around immediately and for the rest of the day continued to say no to things.

Stop letting him dictate the whole trip.

No to going to a new slide at the playground (no reason, just because he was going another way), no to popping in to a little instalation we were passing, no to going to our locker and get my camera to take pictures of me and my son together (something I always ask for and rarely get).

After a whole day of this I am currently angry in the hotel bed at 1 am typing this out to see if this is as stupid as it feels.

To be fair, he doesn’t have to accept a drink he doesn’t want.

I even went out to clear my head and got mulled wine on the way (its winter here) and offered it to him as an olive branch.

Guess what he said… yeah, it was a “no thanks”.

This might be a bit extreme.

Will I be the in the wrong if I told him he needs to travel alone from now on, and let me travel on my own?

I love him, but this is the WORST part of our dynamic.

She has told him that she wants to do things on her own (with their son), and he has agreed. So, why doesn’t she just go do them? This is a bit confusing to me.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about this relationship.

This commenter thinks there are bigger problems than the vacation issues.

If he is fine with separate vacations, then that is not a problem.

This is a great option.

Honestly, this seems like what he agreed to. She just isn’t doing it.

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This is exactly what I was thinking.

He doesn’t seem to want to stop her from enjoying things without him, so she needs to do it. Just because he doesn’t want to tag along doesn’t mean she can’t go.

Unless she is excluding certain details, it seems they could travel together while engaging in separate activities.