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Weddings are a sensitive subject, aren’t they? There’s always the chance to offend someone, since everyone is feeling a bit more sensitive.

In this case, a woman was getting ready for a small gathering where her sister’s fiancé’s female relatives would be meeting the family for the first time. Just tea and snacks.

She bought a white dress with pink flowers and brown accents, thinking it was modest and appropriate for the occasion.

Her sister, however, strongly objected.

They did not come to an agreement, and now she’s wondering if she’s in the wrong for buying that dress.

Read the full story below.

AITA for wanting to wear a white dress for my sister’s get-together?

I (18F) and my sister Lily (24F) have always had a weird relationship.

We were never close growing up, and things between us are still tense.

She recently got engaged, and as part of a family tradition we hosted a small gathering at our house for her fiancé’s female relatives to come meet us.

It was just tea, biscuits, fruit, and small talk.

So, not an engagement party. At all.

My other sister and I had never met them before, so we wanted to make a good first impression. I showed both my sisters dresses I already owned, but they didn’t like any of them.

So my mom and I went shopping and found a maxi dress that was white WITH pink flowers and brown accents.

It was fitted at the top, flowy at the bottom, and came with a cute small jacket to go over it. It looked modest and not too flashy, perfect for the occasion.

When I got home, I showed Lily the dress. She looked confused and asked what it was.

I told her it was the dress I planned to wear to the gathering. She didn’t say much, so I thought nothing of it.

But she was bothered.

The next day, my other sister told me Lily hated the dress and wanted me to change immediately.

I was shocked because the event was only two days away, and the dress I bought was expensive. So for me not wear it was a bummer.

Later, Lily offered me one of her dresses “That she likes” instead. It was burnt orange, midi length, and had a deep V-neck.

I had recently had chest surgery and still had visible scars, so I felt very uncomfortable wearing something that revealing.

When I told her that, she made a snarky comment about me being childish. And not appreciating what’s given.

The worst is, the conversation didn’t result in anything productive.

We got into a huge argument. She said I had no manners and shouldn’t wear white around the bride. I argued that this was not a wedding or engagement party, just a casual family gathering.

She then told my parents they hadn’t raised me properly and that this is what happens when they “let the youngest loose.”

Okay, that comment was kind of funny.

I got upset and went to my room.

In the end, I wore a simple top with a black skirt and got ready anyway.

The gathering itself went fine, but what annoyed me most was that Lily ended up wearing a maroon lace dress, not even white AT ALL.

Yikes.

After making such a huge issue over my dress, she didn’t even wear the color she claimed mattered so much.

For context, we’ve always been compared growing up.

We look different, and Lily has made comments before about my lighter hair and features in comparison to my sisters that have more tan and darker features. I really don’t know if it’s a matter of jealousy or what.

AITA?

Her sister was the immature one. What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their thoughts.

Simple like that.

Unfortunately, I agree.

Another reader chimes in.

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I can see it being this way, but I disagree in this particular case.

So no one can wear white around a bride, even if she herself isn’t wearing white during regular family events?

Let’s put it in simple terms: it was a small family get-together.

She also didn’t want to wear something bridal-looking. She chose a modest dress with a floral pattern and even planned to wear a jacket over it.

Let’s make a case.

In theory, let’s say you should avoid white around a bride. In this case: 1) it was a normal family gathering, 2) the dress was white but had flowers, 3) the bride didn’t wear white at all.

Her sister created an argument for no good reason and should apologize.