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It is not uncommon in life to have to decide between two or more good things, and that can be very difficult.

What would you do if your mother wanted you to come to a first birthday party for your sister, but your father wanted you to attend his graduation party, and they were both on the same day?

That is what is happening to the young lady in this story, and she just can’t figure out what to do. And, to make things worse, both of her parents are making her feel guilty to try to get her to do what they want.

Personally, I think she should pick whatever she wants, but either way, both of her parents are way out of line. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.

AITA For not knowing what familiar event assist?

I (16F) don’t know what to choose.

This is a very difficult decision for a young lady.

For context, in a few days my little sister is going to turn one year, her birthday party will be this Saturday, but the problem is that my Dad’s graduation event will be also on Saturday.

Both my mom and dad are expecting me in their events, I have to clarify that they have been separated even before I was born so they are not going to each other’s event.

It isn’t like her little sister will even know she isn’t there.

The thing is that I don’t know my sister well, not only because she is 1 year but because I don’t live with her. I live 3 hours away from her and it’s very rare when I can see her, adding that I have my Social Hours also on Saturdays.

If I go with my mother where my sister is currently living now, I’ll have to leave since Friday night and return Sunday night, not only losing my Social Hours from that saturday, but also not seeing my dad and not going to his graduation.

Dad seems more than willing to help.

Now, if I go to my dad’s graduation, I can stay in my house until Saturday in the morning or stay at my dad’s house until the next the morning.

Then I can do my social hours and then go to my dad’s event at night, then he told me that he could drive me 3 hours to the house where my sister and mom will be staying.

It is a very difficult situation. And her parents can’t really change the dates.

I feel like this decision is very difficult, mostly because everyone is expecting me to choose one and not to look for another option.

I really want to go to my dad’s graduation because these are the type of events or situations that bond us more as father and daughter, and when my mom graduated like 2-3 years ago I assisted her graduation event without refusing.

Neither parent should be making her feel guilty.

But, at the same time, this is the first day of life of my little sister, and even if I don’t feel her like a fully sister because we don’t live together, she is still my blood and the daughter of my mom.

Since my mom knew that I was doubting where to go, she has been more cold and serious with me, and since I told my dad that my sister’s party was also Saturday, he got a little frustrated and told me that he was expecting me in his graduation.

She just doesn’t know what to do.

And my dad said that he could drive me one day after the party so I can spend time with my sister, plus both my families are waiting for this.

If I go to one event instead of the other, the family of one side will be happy and the other might be mad at me, but I don’t know what to do!

AITA?

This young lady has a legitimately difficult decision to make, and her parents are only making it worse by trying to guilt her into doing their thing.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about this.

She is in a no-win situation. It is truly unfortunate.

This commenter thinks she should go to her dad’s graduation. It seems that most people agree, but not everyone.

The graduation event is a once-in-a-lifetime thing. Her sister will have plenty of birthday parties.

Her parents are really putting her in a bad situation. It isn’t fair to her, though.

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This commenter thinks she should go to the graduation. I agree with them.

Her parents are really putting her in a difficult position. It would be half tempting to not attend either, but she can’t really do that.

In this case, I would go to the graduation since her little sister won’t even know if she is there or not.