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Ending a bad roommate situation after less than a month might seem like dodging a bullet. But one renter is starting to worry that the next 30 days could be even worse than the first few weeks.

OP says her new roommate quickly made living together uncomfortable with snarky comments and accusations, even brushing off OP’s concerns with a simple “that’s just how I am.” Rather than spend an entire lease walking on eggshells, OP finally told her she wouldn’t be renewing with the roommate’s name attached and gave her 30 days to find somewhere else to live.

Her roommate hasn’t responded. Instead, OP says something strange started happening: nearly all of her towels and cups disappeared into the roommate’s bedroom. Now she’s wondering whether this is just bizarre passive aggression—or a warning t

I’m down to 3 towels and 1 cup

i found a new roommate less than a month ago and the situation has not been ideal.

it is very clear she does not respect me as a person, with how many snarky comments she’s made about me, essentially insinuating that i’m a criminal and that all of my intentions are wrong.

we even had a conversation about how I felt about these comments and she didn’t feel the need to apologize, and said “that’s just how I am” (in reference to her behavior).

Woof.

i texted her today telling her that i was not going to renew the lease with her name on it.

she has 30 days to leave and find a new place to live.

i’ve had my fair share of terrible roommates in the past that i’ve had to walk on eggshells around and frankly i really don’t feel like doing that again for an entire year!

No kidding.

she hasn’t responded but what she has done is hoard all of the cups in her room and take every single towel that i’ve had except for three of them and place them in her room

. i’m worried that she is going to steal these things from me. granted it wouldn’t be a huge loss because they are just cups and towels but regardless they are things that i paid for and that i own.

i am very worried that she is not handling this well, and that I let the wrong person into my house. she’s very much avoiding me actively.

Not sure if you should be scared or laugh.

has anyone else had a similar experience to this? what do I do?

even with my past of bad roommates none of them has ever stolen essential goods like this from me so i’m a bit weirded out and i don’t know how to navigate this.

AITA?

Commenters largely agreed that OP was NTA for wanting out of a living arrangement that had become uncomfortable almost immediately. But many were less focused on the missing towels and more concerned about how OP was handling the roommate’s departure.

Readers urged OP to make sure she actually has the legal authority to require her roommate to leave within 30 days, especially if the roommate is named on a lease or has established tenancy. Simply deciding not to live with someone anymore doesn’t necessarily mean they can legally be removed on that timeline.

As for the mysteriously disappearing household items, commenters advised OP to stop treating the behavior as merely weird. They suggested documenting what belongs to her, securing anything valuable or sentimental, and avoiding unnecessary confrontation while the situation remains tense. A few cups and towels may not be worth much, but readers felt their disappearance could be a good reason to protect everything that would be difficult to replace.

Ultimately, commenters agreed that if things have deteriorated this badly in less than a month, ending the roommate arrangement is probably wise. OP just needs to make sure she protects herself—and follows the proper process—while doing it.

This person says to speak with her and be clear.

This person says to take it out of her deposit.

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And this person says that frankly OP has done all they can do.

When giving your roommate notice suddenly leaves you with three towels and one cup, it’s probably time to lock up anything you actually care about.