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Mother’s Day can get a little awkward once Dad gets a new wife, and suddenly the whole family tree needs a seating chart. You want to celebrate Mom of course, but where does this new figure fit in this now complicated holiday?

How would you handle your Dad’s new spouse wrongfully expecting a Mother’s Day celebration? One woman recently shared a super awkward example of this with Reddit. Here’s what happened.

AITAH for not telling my father’s third wife happy Mother’s Day?

I’m mid 40s.

My father married his third wife about 10 years ago.

They live across the country and my relationship with her mainly consists of her listening to my phone calls with my father on speaker phone.

Doesn’t seem like an abnormal relationship for that phase in life.

I often don’t even know she’s there until she says something in the background and I realize I’ve actually been ‘talking’ to both of them.

I met her one time about a decade ago and she is nice enough, but I really just see her as a woman my father married.

I cut off contact with my own mother years ago and try to block out anything Mother’s Day for obvious reasons.

And that’s her own prerogative.

So my father and his wife came to visit this year and it happened to fall on Mother’s Day weekend.

Despite being up since 5 am with two sick dogs and having my own chronic health conditions to deal with, I spent 3 hours making dinner for their last night in town.

We had barely sat down to eat and I made a comment about how nice of a day it was.

It sure sounds like it was!

My father piped in with “It’s Mother’s Day too!” and I kind of laughed and said we aren’t real big on that in this house for obvious reasons.

His wife scoffed and said “Thanks a lot!”.

I asked what she meant and she said “I’m a mom!” and I replied that she isn’t my mom.

Yikes…that’s a record scratch moment.

She said she’s “someone’s mom” and proceeds to tell me about how *her* kids told her happy Mother’s Day.

I told her I don’t typically say happy Mother’s Day to every mom I know of and asked her if she planned on telling me happy Mother’s Day for being a mother to my two elderly sick dogs.

She said no as if it was a ridiculous thing for me to ask.

That’s a hot-button discourse topic.

At this point she told me to shut up and stop talking to her.

Well lady, you started a fight just as we sat down to eat and in my house, you don’t throw a punch and then get to put your hands up and say fight over.

I tried to explain to her that I don’t view her as a mother figure, she’s my dads wife but I was an adult when she joined the family and *she never mothered me*.

A little harsh, but incorrect.

She shouted “f*** you” to me and everyone got up and left the table and went into their rooms.

I found out later they dumped the dinner I made them in the garbage and had cold cereal for dinner.

Well now that’s a little dramatic.

They asked my husband to drive them to the airport the next morning for their flight, and neither of them said a word to me (or my dogs) before they left.

AITAH?

Maybe family gatherings should be off the table (literally) for these guys for awhile. Let’s see if the Reddit community agreed.

Most of the comments were pretty baffled by the situation.

One person offered a way forward.

Another made a very valid point.

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A few dragged the dad through the mud.

And one person felt the situation should have been escalated further.

“One, big, happy family” seems like too lofty of a goal for these folks.