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Major life changes can become complicated when family members and finances are involved.
In this story, a woman wanted to discuss her 80-year-old mother’s plans to remarry and change her assets.
Her mother made big life decisions without asking for her and her twin brother’s thoughts.
But when they asked to have breakfast and discuss the changes, their mother didn’t take it very well.
Check out the full details below.
AITA for wanting to talk to my 80yo mom about her finances before she buys a house for her new fiancé and changes her trust?
My 80-year-old widowed mom is selling her home.
She plans to move an hour away, get married, and buy a house entirely with her own money for her and her new fiancé (82).
She wants to combine all assets, rewrite her trust to include him and his kids, and remove my dad’s name.
This woman wanted to talk to her mother about this, but she got yelled at instead.
When I asked if my twin brother and I could grab breakfast with her to discuss these big changes and make sure she’s protected, she exploded.
She said it’s none of our business and asked her church group to pray for strength to forgive us.
Is it unreasonable to want to talk to her about protecting herself?
Is there a way I can persuade her to have a conversation with me?
Uh oh! It sounds like OP’s mother made some big life decisions without carefully reviewing her options.
It’s only right for OP and her twin brother to want to discuss all these changes with their mother.
But on the other hand, her mother is also an adult who can make her own decisions, so pushing too hard could make her even less willing to talk.
Let’s see how others reacted to this story.
This person also shows concern.
Here’s another honest opinion.
This one agrees with OP.
It’s full of red flags, says this user.
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Finally, another suggestion.
Big life decisions deserve careful thought, especially when they involve finances and family.