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It’s normal for parents to brag about their kid’s achievements, and I personally find that wholesome. But what if one of your parents decided to brag by posting your certificate with your personal information for everyone to see?

This is what happened to one college student who received a Dean’s List certificate after earning a 4.0 GPA. His mom was super excited and asked him to send her his certificate.

She said she wanted to celebrate his achievement, but he was already suspicious she wanted to post it on Facebook.

His certificate included his name and university, and his mom has a fairly large Facebook following, so he didn’t want it shared.

She did it anyway. So he grabbed her phone when she wasn’t looking.

Was he disrespectful?

Read the full story below to decide.

AITA for deleting my mom’s Facebook post?

I (19M) am a freshman in college and recently obtained a Dean’s Lister Certificate for having a 4.0 GPA.

For context: the Dean Lister’s Certificate is given to those who have a high GPA within the semester. It’s basically an honours award for high-achieving students.

I told my mom (60F) that I got the award, which made her excited, since I can now obtain a scholarship, as we are not a well-off family.

My mom told me to send her the certificate and kept bugging me for days.

But he had a reason to not want to.

I was not willing to give it to her since she has a big following on Facebook, and I don’t want my details, such as my name and the university I go to, to be revealed to strangers.

This is also kind of the reason why I don’t post on social media.

After telling me to send it to her repeatedly, I eventually sent her the certificate and made her promise me that she wouldn’t post it anywhere besides our family group chat.

But did his mom keep her promise?

One morning, I woke up and decided to scroll on Facebook for a while.

As soon as I opened the app, the first post was from my mom’s account. She posted my certificate, which clearly displayed the aforementioned details in bold letters.

I got angry and decided to ask her why she would post it when I clearly stated that I don’t want her to post anything, and made her promise me that.

She told me that this was her only way of appreciating my efforts, and I should give this to her.

This made me angrier because she did not have MY CONSENT to post MY CERTIFICATE on Facebook.

The situation is absurd, but she didn’t get why he was upset.

I cleared my thoughts and eventually told her to delete the post before the end of the day to make up for all of this.

The next morning, I went downstairs to have breakfast and asked her if she had deleted it already.

She said “no”.

I told her that she had all day yesterday to delete the post and asked how come she has not deleted it yet.

But she gave me the same answer and followed it up with: “I should be able to post any of your achievements because I am paying for your schooling. I have the right to do anything I want with those.”

He would have to take matters into his own hands.

I found this unreasonable which made me think of the inevitable.

When she got up to clear her plate, I immediately grabbed her phone and deleted the post to the point of no recovery.

She saw me have her phone in my hand and immediately ran to grab it, but it was too late since I had already deleted the post.

She scolded me and told me that I had no right to go through her phone and delete the post because it is her account and she can do anything she wants with it. She told me to recover the post.

It was too late.

But I already told her that it cannot be recovered at any point.

Admittedly, I think I also was out of line for going through her phone and deleting the post. I feel bad for hurting her feelings.

I just don’t want my personal details to be shared with strangers, and I hated that she broke my trust.

AITA?

Posting someone’s personal information like this is a no no. What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their thoughts.

Someone shares an idea.

Yup.

Food for thought.

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Another reader chimes in.

It’s okay to want to celebrate your kids, and getting a 4.0 GPA and making the Dean’s List is a very significant accomplishment, but there are ways to do things.

Sharing sensitive information publicly is not one of them, especially since he basically begged her not to.

She also promised him she wouldn’t and did it anyway.

So she ignored his boundaries but didn’t like when that allowed him to do the same.

It’s understandable why he did what he did.