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Good neighbors do not need to be best friends, but they should at least avoid blocking each other’s front doors.

We all expect a little parking courtesy, but after nearly a year of squeezed entrances, damaged plants, and one painful fall, would you keep quiet or finally leave a direct note?

That note earns an apology wrapped inside a lecture about kindness and community, leaving one homeowner wondering who was actually being rude.

See why this parking dispute became a lesson in passive aggression.

AITA for leaving a note asking someone why they kept parking in a specific way?

I live next to three or four women in their twenties, who have been blocking access to my front door/walkway in a really weird spot for a while.

Instead of pulling forward to the curb, they stop right in the middle in front of my house and completely block access to my walkway (there is no sidewalk, my walkway starts from the street).

At least two of them are either oblivious or inconsiderate at parking.

If they pulled forward 2-3ft to the curb, I could safely and easily access my house and it would be fine but in the current spot, it’s really awkward to try to scoot past their car or I have to walk through my garden bed.

Usually the mailman just tramples flowers to get around – RIP to my sage plant.

Let’s see what happened to bring this annoying situation to boiling point.

Yesterday while trying to get home, I tripped and fell hard while trying to get around their car.

I was extremely frustrated, and after nearly a year of quietly putting up with their weird parking jobs and a handful of other incidents, I decided to leave a note, reading:

“Is there a reason you’re not pulling forward all the way and instead blocking access to my house?

I’m tired of delivery drivers commenting on “my” parking job when 95% of the time it’s someone from your house parked here even when your driveway and the street in front of my house is empty.”

But the reply was more than a little unsettling.

And I got this in return:

“I Sincerely apologize for blocking your walk way yesterday. I am happy to move my car forwards in the future and will pass this along to my roommates.

I can assure you it was not intended to cause any discomfort for you. I think this is a good opportunity to remind you how valuable kindness, connection, and community are right now.

I don’t believe we have ever spoken or introduced ourselves. My name is [name], I live beside you, and I am a person. I have a whole entire life with challenges and feelings.”

Yikes! Let’s see how she felt about this weird response.

I’ve frankly put up with a fair amount over the last year from them where I have not spoken up, including tenants moving out and leaving junk on the corner.

This was technically in my yard, but they probably don’t know the property line, meaning it blew into my yard for over a week so I had to clean up after them.

Their Christmas tree kept ending up in my yard after I put it back until they tossed it instead onto the neighbor’s yard across the street.

There’s been damage to my garden bed rock wall from poor parking too – and I have dealt with it all politely and quietly up to now.

This behavior from these women was really out of character for the neighborhood too.

I’m good friends with my other next door neighbors, and friendly with everyone else.

I did introduce myself to one of them when I first moved in, but she moved out shortly after and frankly they haven’t been very neighborly so I have no interest in trying to establish a relationship with them.

Also, other neighbors have described this house as kind of a circus wheel of people moving in and out.

Was my initial note really that offensive, or is her response just a passive aggressive attempt at shaming someone for speaking up?

AITA?

This person was well within their rights to complain about constant, problematic parking blocking their property.

But the truth is, if it was just the parking it might have been less of an issue – when these things stack up, we naturally become less tolerant in the long run.

And when the plants are getting trampled, the walkway is getting blocked, and actual injury has occurred as a result of this terrible parking, it’s completely understandable that this neighbor would be more than a little upset; writing a note really is one of the nicer things they could have done.

Let’s see what the folks of Reddit thought about these bad-parking neighbors.

This person agreed that they were right to stand up for themselves, but thought they should have done it much sooner.

However, others thought the person could have handled the situation with a little more poise.

If you enjoyed this post, check out this story about a man who stopped salting his neighbors’ driveways when they wouldn’t stop driving through his yard.

Meanwhile, this Redditor thought that both notes had more than a little attitude behind them.

This story involves a reasonable complaint delivered with some frustration after nearly a year of avoidable problems.

Perhaps the note could have sounded warmer, but blocking an entrance, damaging a garden, and causing someone to fall probably deserved more than complete silence.

Nothing builds community quite like apologizing and assigning the injured neighbor homework in the same message.