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Planning for big events often requires time, money, and commitment.

The following story is about a woman who was invited to a destination wedding of her friend in August.

So she already took a vacation leave from work and booked the flights for her and her husband.

Later, her friend moved the wedding to December, and she realized attending became too expensive and complicated to manage.

Tensions ensued when she told her friend they wouldn’t be able to attend. Let’s take a closer look.

AITA for not going to my close friend’s wedding after she changed the date?

My friend (27F) originally planned to have her wedding this August 2026.

We live in different countries. I booked flights and an Airbnb for me and my husband.

I received her save the date email last month.

Due to my job, I have to submit my vacation request as early as possible.

The wedding was originally on a Friday. We decided to stay the weekend as well.

I was really excited about it. I told her after we made the plans.

This woman learned that her friend rescheduled their wedding to December.

A few days ago, she texted me. They decided to change the date to December.

It would be around Christmas time. She said it would be more festive.

The things that we booked are not refundable. There was an option, but it was more expensive.

My coworkers already rescheduled to cover my shift.

It would be too expensive to travel more than once for us.

Prices go way up for the Christmas holidays.

She apologized and said they couldn’t make it.

I made the hard decision. I told her we are sorry. Unfortunately, we cannot go to her wedding anymore.

These are the reasons. Maybe we can celebrate at a different time.

She said she is disappointed because we are close friends.

She said that if I thought she was a friend, I would make the effort to go to her special day.

I have not replied to her messages yet. I feel like it is unfair.

She was the one who changed dates. This is a destination wedding for us.

OP made the necessary preparations to attend the August wedding.

It wasn’t her fault that the event got rescheduled.

Expecting someone to absorb those costs and still attend is a big ask.

And guilt-tripping her doesn’t help either. Let’s check out the comments of other people.

This user shares some valid points.

This one offers some advice,

It’s on her, says this one.

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Here’s another suggestion.

Finally, short and straightforward.

If you move the date, don’t be surprised when some plans stay put.