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Children should be able to enjoy school activities with friends while still learning to include others.

In this story, a woman wanted her daughter to participate in a school fundraiser with her chosen friends.

However, another girl repeatedly joined their group despite being mean to them.

The school’s inclusion policy meant the girls could not exclude her, leaving her questioning whether the arrangement was fair.

Read the full story below to find out more.

AITA for not wanting my daughter to have a certain classmate in her group for a fundraising event?

My year 6 daughter’s school has a fundraiser event each year to raise money for their graduation.

This particular event is meant to be really fun as they get to do it in groups with their friends.

The issue is there is a girl in her year who has decided she is their friend, despite being awful to them a lot of the time.

For context, she has special needs and is given a lot of ‘grace’ when it comes to getting what she wants.

This woman noticed how the other girl would often dictate what the group should do.

However, when she joins my daughter’s friendship group, she often dictates what they do.

She makes awful comments and is generally disruptive/annoying.

The school has a policy where you can’t say no to someone if they ask to play with you.

And you can’t exclude anyone, which in theory, I agree with.

She doesn’t oppose inclusion, but she thinks her daughter should be able to choose her group.

However, this girl always gets to decide who she chooses to be with.

Without any consultation with my daughter or friends, as she’s in a different class.

The teachers simply told them she wanted to be in their group, so that was it.

I don’t want to exclude her per se, but at the same time, she’s not actually friends with the girls.

And what is meant to be a lovely bonding/memory-making activity with your besties is now being overrun by this other girl.

Now, she’s wondering if she was in the wrong for saying this.

So am I the jerk for wanting my daughter to just be in a group with her chosen friends?

Is it fair to make it their 11-to-12-year-old responsibility to accommodate this child?

Who in the past has said mean things to them and ruined their activities?

I honestly think OP is not wrong for wanting her daughter to enjoy a special activity with her closest friends.

At the same time, the school should handle inclusion in a way that does not place the entire burden on a group of young tweens.

Perhaps the situation will become lighter if she raises the concern with a school authority organizing the fundraiser activity.

What do you think? Let’s read the responses of other people on this story.

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Finally, here’s another honest opinion.

Inclusion is important, but so is making sure every child feels comfortable in their own group.