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Jeez, talk about not being on the same page…

Sure, it can be tough to make travel plans for the whole family, but you’d at least think that you’d be able to find common ground with your partner.

That’s not the case in this story, unfortunately.

A woman explained why making vacation plans with her husband and her kids has completely gone off the rails.

Take a look!

AITA for bringing my son on vacation?

“I (39F) have three kids (9F, 7F, 5M).

We love cruising, but cruise cabins are built for four people, so bringing all five of us means either booking a suite or paying for two cabins. Two cabins are usually cheaper, but our kids are too young to stay alone, so the second room is basically wasted.

For an upcoming trip in October, I suggested that for one cruise our youngest stay with his grandma. He absolutely loves visiting her because she spoils him.

Okay, you got it, kid!

When we asked him whether he’d rather go on the cruise or stay with Grandma, he immediately chose Grandma. She was happy to have him.

That was months ago, but ever since, my husband has made constant passive-aggressive comments that our son will be emotionally scarred or is acting out because he thinks we don’t want him on vacation.

We’ve asked our son repeatedly, and every single time he still chooses Grandma. We even offered to bring Grandma on the cruise, but since she couldn’t join the entire trip, he still preferred staying with her.

Then we got a very cheap one-room cruise offer for September. My husband suggested taking Grandma and our son on that trip to “make it up to him” for not coming in October.

Oh, boy…

One of our daughters sobbed for hours, saying, “He’s choosing not to go, and now he’s getting rewarded with another vacation while I can’t go.”

We booked that September trip for me, Grandma, and my son, but I felt guilty because it upset our daughters.

This morning we argued again. We planned a long hike, but our oldest (who doesn’t like hiking and loves reading) asked to spend the day in childcare instead. My husband insisted she’d feel abandoned if we let her skip it.

This is a recurring issue: I feel he projects his own feelings onto the kids and insists they secretly want things they’ve clearly said they don’t.

Okay…you win…

Frustrated, I booked a second cabin for our October cruise so Grandma and our son could come too. Since he’d now be included in October, I don’t think it’s fair if he also goes in September.

When I told my son, he immediately burst into tears, saying he didn’t want to come with us in October and wanted to stay with Grandma instead.

My husband says I’m being spiteful and forcing our son to go in October just to prove I’m right. I told him I’m only doing this because he keeps insisting our son has been hurt by being left behind and keeps pushing the kids into activities they don’t actually want.

AITA for making my son come on the family vacation to prove my husband wrong?

At this point I honestly don’t know what the right thing to do is.”

Reddit users spoke up.

This reader had a lot to say.

This person weighed in.

Another Reddit user said this is her fault.

Another individual said they both SUCK.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a group trip that sours when additional guests are added without agreement.

And this person shared their thoughts.

These folks seem to have some serious communication issues!

And it sounds like they’re making this way more complicated than it needs to be.

Get it together, people!

She’s definitely not on the same page as her husband when it comes to this stuff…