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Parents can ask adult children to help family, but secretly controlling their futures crosses a far darker line.

One recent graduate spent more than a year applying for jobs while helping care for his disabled younger brother at home.

Instead of bad luck explaining the silence, his mother discovered someone much closer had been quietly interfering with every opportunity.

Let’s see how she responded to the betrayal.

AITA for moving my son into a rental apartment after finding out that his dad’s been cancelling his job applications?

My son “Aiden” (23) moved back in with us upon graduating college as my husband wanted.

My husband’s original plan was to have Aiden live with us for free, but stay home and help with his disabled younger brother (16).

Aiden started complaining about needing money and wanted to find a job.

My husband was against this and even offered to double his allowance but Aiden was growing tired of staying at home.

He was having trouble finding a job.

So he began looking for jobs here and there for over a year but non of his job applications came through.

He’d just apply and they never get back to him.

We were confused by this til recently.

I found out that my husband was behind all the job applications being cancelled.

He’d wait til Aiden applies then he proceeds to cancel the application by impersonating him and using his email.

She defended her son.

I blew up at him for this.

But his justification is that he’s just trying to make sure that our younger son is cared for by Aiden and said that Aiden has been big help and him getting a job will affect his care for his brother.

I went ahead and rented an apartment for Aiden and told him to stay there til he finds a job and starts paying for it himself.

Aiden was hurt upon knowing what his dad did.

Her husband is furious.

My husband was livid when he found out.

He called me unhinged and said that I was separating the boys and teaching Aiden to become selfish and care more about a job than family.

He also said it was huge decision for me to rent an apartment without even running it with him.

He’s been giving me hell about it and is calling me a terrible mother for encouraging Aiden to be selfish and self centered.

He said I needed to see and understand why he did what he did.

Her husband is the one who sounds unhinged.

Most parents want their kids to move out, get a job and learn to adult. Forcing him to stay home and take care of his disabled younger brother is not healthy.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

Here’s a Harry Potter reference.

This person thinks she should leave her husband.

Her husband is not thinking rationally.

Let’s call it like it is. Her husband is crazy.

What her husband did is probably illegal.

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She is a great mother.

After learning her husband had impersonated Aiden and canceled his applications, OP rented her son an apartment while he restarted his job search.

Redditors overwhelmingly called her NTA, arguing that caregiving must be chosen and her husband’s manipulation threatened both sons’ long-term futures.

Dad tried turning a college graduate into permanent unpaid home care, but Mom answered by handing the family house elf an apartment-shaped sock.