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Hosting relatives can be generous, but accommodating an entire family transforms a visit into a temporary relocation.

For one expat in Japan, the dilemma involves five houseguests, energetic children, limited bedding, and two work-from-home days.

Rather than accept a crowded arrangement, he recommended affordable lodging and found his brother unwilling to take no for an answer.

Check out the full drama below.

AITAH for not being willing to let my brother and his wife & kids stay with me.

About 3 years ago, I moved to Japan for work.

I actually have a very decently high paying job which includes a reasonable sized apartment as part of my benefits.

Various family members have floated the idea of coming to visit to which I have suggested places to stay and things to see, but never offered up my place to stay.

Hmm…

Finally, my brother has asked to come with his wife and three boys (8, 11 & 15). Admittedly, I do kind of have the space. I specifically have a room that I mostly just use for exercising and meditation as well as where my computer station is.

The thing is the (1) the last time I saw my nephews, they were a handful. They have a lot of energy and gentle parenting has not helped them one bit.

The (2) is that I don’t actually have anything for them to sleep on. I do keep two futons in the closet for when friends crash but I am definitely investing in more.

Okay, fair.

Also, it isn’t like my brother is poor either. I actually suggested a service to him that allows you to rent a basic apartment for a few weeks that is really nice and not excessively expensive.

I know that he could afford it and, frankly, I think that they would be better off.

I have said no, that I am not equipped to house them as well as the fact that I will be working when they are here which would be a huge nuisance, especially as I work from home 2 days a week.

And that’s FINAL.

Still, he keeps pushing back and pulling the ‘family’ bs.

Hilariously, he has tried to drag our parents into this, but they are refusing to get involved.

AITA for not letting them stay?

With no real sleeping setup, a work schedule to juggle, and loud kids on the horizon, many backed the decision to keep his zen sanctuary kid-free.

This person says it’s not even in their best interest to stay with him anyway…NTA.

This person says HARD no.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman whose family says she’s selfish for not wanting strangers living in her trailer.

And this person has a good suggestion on what to say.

OP refused to host his brother, sister-in-law, and three energetic children in an employer-provided apartment that also functions as his workspace.

Commenters overwhelmingly agreed that five vacationing relatives could secure suitable lodging, particularly when OP had already supplied an affordable alternative.

His brother apparently wanted the premium Japan package where lodging is free and the host doubles as hotel manager and occasional babysitter.