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Imagine saving up money to go on a big trip you’ve been planning for a long time. What would you do if one of your parents asked to borrow the money you saved up for the trip but promised to pay you back before you leave? Would you loan them the money or refuse?

In this story, one young woman is in that exact situation, and she’s hesitant to loan her mom the money. Her mom is being pretty pushy about it too.

Should she loan her mom the money? Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for not wanting to give my mom the money I’ve saved up for a trip I’ve been dreaming about my whole life?

I(21f) have been planning to go to Barcelona since about a year ago.

It’s somewhere I’ve wanted to go for so long and the first place I’ll ever be going to outside of the United States.

I started saving up about 4 months ago and worked a lot of long hours at work and only kept a little bit of each of my paycheck for my casual spending money.

Things are starting to come together.

I finally saved up enough to buy the plane ticket and also a month long trip to stay at an Airbnb, which I have already purchased both of those things.

Now I am almost at my goal of what I wanted to save for the actual trip itself.

I told my family about it and they were very excited for me, my mom even told me she’d give me some extra money for my trip just in case.

Her mom asked for a big favor.

Last night she told me she had a favor to ask me and asked me if I could let her borrow all the money I’ve saved (a good few thousand dollars) to get 2 of her teeth fixed, which she has been wanting to do for a long time.

She has 2 fake teeth in place just until she gets the permanent fake teeth and said if she waits any longer to get the permanent ones, she will have to start all over with the fake temporary ones.

I am not sure if this is true as I don’t know much about dentistry.

She told me she would pay me back all of the money I give her before I leave for my trip, which I am going to be leaving for in about 2 months.

Her mom is getting pretty demanding.

I told her I don’t know and how I’d think about it.

And she reminded me that she would pay it all back PLUS give me some extra.

I told her again I’d have to think about it.

And she got irritated & told me how she sacrificed so much for my siblings & I growing up so that we can have what we want and asked me why I can’t do the same for her.

I really don’t think I want to do it because my mom has never been good with money. AITA if I say no?

She shouldn’t feel obligated to help her mom. What if her mom doesn’t pay her back? That would be a big problem. How about her mom just saves up the money and then gets her teeth fixed?

Let’s see what Reddit suggests.

This person doesn’t think she should loan her mom the money.

Here’s a suggestion of what to tell her mom.

Another person points out that her mom is manipulating her.

Nobody thinks she should give her mom the money.

Her mom shouldn’t even ask. She has to know she won’t actually pay her back, and that would ruin her daughter’s trip. That would probably also ruin their relationship.

She definitely shouldn’t loan her mom the money.

I hope she has a wonderful trip. She has worked hard to save up, and she shouldn’t feel guilty about holding onto the money.