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It’s a kind gestures when your besties all come forward and offer to help out with your wedding day. Though some can really just make you wish you said no. It’s the thought that counts though…right?

What would you do if your most wildly incompetent friend offered their services on your big day? One woman recently shared a crazy example of this from her own life on Reddit. Here’s what happened.

AITA for not driving a friend to a city to ensure bride’s wedding cake isn’t ruined?

My(24F) friend Katy(25F) has been trying to launch a wedding cake business.

She started advertising using stock images and when she was talking to some people they asked if she took a course and she said yes.

I asked her about it afterwards and she said she hasn’t taken any really but didn’t want to admit that to people so they trust her and hire her.

That’s…a choice.

She’s done some very small cake examples since then.

To me they’re not professional quality or wedding cake worthy but maybe if she’s offering cheap prices to get started it’s justified and she can improve with practice.

You gotta start somewhere.

Our mutual friend Lily (26F) is getting married tomorrow and since the start of the year Katy pressured her into letting her do her wedding cake.

She didn’t so much as ask but just tell her she’ll do it and said she’ll only charge for ingredients and materials.

Lily is a bit of a pushover so ended up saying okay without any discussion.

Uncomfortable to say the least.

Katy said her goal was to use this to kick start her business with a cake she’s made for a real wedding.

Yesterday evening with one day left to go till the wedding Katy asked me to drive her the next day to get specific ingredients for the cake that she can only source from another city.

She knew I had taken a day off and whilst Katy drives too she refuses to drive out of the local area as she’s scared.

She perhaps should have thought that through then.

I said I can’t as I specially took the day off to prepare for the wedding, everything I need to pick up for my outfit, wedding present, get my hair done etc.

I also expressed shock that with 1 day to go she still needed to source essential ingredients for the cake.

Katy got angry pulling a face and said “Tut why didn’t you get all your stuff done already then?” as if I was really disorganized and had messed up.

Even if she did mess up, it’s not really her business.

I said I didn’t need to get it done by now, I’ve taken a day off specially to do it all.

Katy said if I didn’t take her then the cake was going to be ruined, I said I’m sorry but I can’t and she’s known for months about this cake she was desperate to make.

I spent the day getting my errands done, then this evening we all met for a pre-wedding gathering.

This friend sounds positively exhausting.

When Katy was coming towards me she had an angry look and said: “I had to go on the train by myself” as if I made her suffer, and how it was really hard.

How she almost wasn’t able to make it and it drastically cut down the time she had to work on the cake.

She then looked away as if she can’t bear to be around me.

Millions of people take the train every single day.

She’s since expressed to people that I wasn’t willing to help ensure the wedding cake wasn’t ruined for the bride.

I know I didn’t do anything wrong, but when she framed it like that, it did give me pause.

That’s what manipulative people are best at!

Should I have actually dropped my stuff and still done it for the sake of ensuring things weren’t ruined for the bride?

I didn’t ask how the cake has gone and I don’t know what to expect tomorrow.

One thing’s for sure, this wedding sounds like it’s lining up to be a drag. Let’s see what the good people of Reddit had to weigh in with.

One person clocked Katy’s MO immediately.

Another pointed out the obvious.

Someone else noted the absurdity of the situation.

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Some practical advice was offered.

But all in all, mass disappointment was shared.

Her cakes have sugar, spice and pretty much nothing nice.