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Weddings are definitely expensive, and nowadays, it’s no longer expensive just for the bride and groom. Try being a bridesmaid! You have to buy your bridesmaid dress, possibly pay for your hair and makeup to be done, buy the bride a gift, throw parties for her, and splurge on a bachelorette trip. It’s really a lot!

Imagine being excited to be a bridesmaid in your friend’s wedding, but another bridesmaid starts a rumor about you. If the bride believed the rumor and kicked you out of the wedding, would you think it’s fair to be reimbursed for all of the expenses you spent on her wedding and bachelorette trip?

That’s the question the woman who wrote this story is asking. While she’s upset about the rumor, she also wants her money back.

Keep reading to see if you think that’s a reasonable request.

AITA for asking for my money back after getting kicked out of a wedding party for a rumor that wasn’t true?

AITA for asking the bride of the wedding to reimburse me for the costs I incurred while participating in her wedding festivities because I was kicked out of the wedding due to an untrue rumor?

For some background me and the bride have been friends since college and have been close since.

I was asked to be a bridesmaid in her wedding and of course accepted because I love her and wanted to help celebrate her big day.

She spent a lot of money on this wedding.

During the months leading up to the wedding I bought several items for the wedding itself and paid for my portion of a bachelorette trip which was a joint trip with the groom and his groomsmen and a few added friends.

The weekend of the trip came and we loaded up the car and set off to our destination.

The whole rumor started that I attempted to sleep with one of the grooms friends on the trip, which was not true and had no logical basis.

Here’s how the rumor got started.

The rumor was started by another bridesmaid who was upset that me and the guy she was currently talking to used to have a relationship years ago and when he found out that I was on the trip he started asking her questions concerning me and my life at the present time.

I have not spoken to this guy since we cut off contact 2 years ago.

So she saw me conversing with one of the grooms friends at the bar we had gone to the first night of the trip. She took it upon herself to start saying that she saw me and this friend of the grooms who was married sneak off to the bathroom to hookup.

This of course did not happen but with this girl being a friend of the brides much longer than me the bride took her side and asked me to leave the bachelorette trip the next morning, in total I was on the trip for less than 24 hours. The trip was booked for 5 days.

It gets worse.

Later after the trip about a week before the wedding I texted the bride a question about the dress and was met with a long text about how I was no longer apart of the bridal party and would not be able to attend the wedding due to the rumors.

She informed me that her whole family and the grooms family was uncomfortable with my being apart of the event due to the rumor and since the friend that I allegedly slept with was a long time friend of the grooms family he would not be uninvited.

So am I the jerk for asking the bride to be reimbursed for the rest of the trip I was not allowed to stay for and the other charges I incurred for the sole purpose of being in her wedding?

Yikes! That bridesmaid was truly out to get her. It’s too bad the bride is believing the lies.

Let’s see if Reddit thinks OP’s request is reasonable or not.

This is a good question.

This person thinks it’s reasonable to ask for her money back.

Another person has questions.

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One person shares how she’d handle it.

Surely, they could ask the groomsman what happened, and if he lies, he’s clearly scum. If he tells the truth, maybe they’d believe him and it would clear OP’s name. Although, I don’t think I’d want to be part of the wedding anymore after all this drama.

It’s crazy how quickly friends can turn on you. It’s especially upsetting because OP didn’t do anything wrong.