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A romantic getaway loses its appeal when private time disappears beneath nonstop relatives, sleepless nights, and an increasingly overwhelmed partner.

This traveler had agreed to share the house only after being promised that the visiting family would not interfere.

By the fourth day, physical pain and constant socializing had pushed him to propose relocating and paying for somewhere peaceful.

But would his partner understand?

AITA? I wanted to leave the vacation, and do something different. My partner says I’m being dramatic.

My partner and I (both M, mid 20s) are currently on vacation.

We have gone to a house he owns, so we wouldn’t have to pay for a hotel.

He told me his parents, grandparents, and cousin would be there.

But he told me we wouldn’t be bothered by them at all.

I agreed and decided to go. We took the car and went.

This man and his partner arrived at the house and met his partner’s family.

On the first day, we had just arrived.

We spent time with the parents, grandparents, and the little cousin.

Everything was okay.

I figured since we had just arrived that’s why it was okay.

On the second day, he spent the whole day playing with his partner’s little cousin.

The next day came.

We spent the full day with his parents and his little cousin, who was chasing me around all day.

He didn’t give me a moment of peace from the moment I woke up til 23:30 (11:30 p.m.) at night.

I went to bed that night, and I couldn’t sleep.

The bed caused me extreme pain, and I hardly got an hour of sleep.

On the third day, they spent time on the beach and went back home to his partner’s family again.

I told him this the next day, and he told me he couldn’t sleep either.

This is the third day.

We spent most of the day together at a beach, went for food, and then we got back.

As soon as we got back, it was again us along with his parents, his grandparents, and the little cousin.

Again, until almost midnight.

He couldn’t sleep the whole night.

Keep in mind the walls are paper thin, and we can’t even whisper.

So we couldn’t do anything on our supposed together vacation.

I couldn’t sleep all night.

I fell asleep around 10 a.m. and woke up at 1 p.m.

When I woke up, there were guests in the house.

He woke up to a set table, food being prepared, and guests arriving.

There was a whole table being set, and they had prepared food.

They’d told me they wanted to cook meat today for the 15th of August.

But I didn’t expect a full-blown gathering.

I got out of bed, fixed myself, and went to the table.

Now, I guess it would matter to say, I am not good with people, especially when I’ve just woken up.

He excused himself to go and hide in the bathroom.

I sat for like 30 minutes at the table, went to the kitchen, went back, and sat for another 20.

Then, I said I had to use the bathroom and left.

I sat in the bathroom for 50 minutes on the floor.

I was so exhausted I fell asleep against the wall.

I also have HEDs, so my body was hurting everywhere from the bed, especially my back and waist.

He suggested that he and his partner leave the house and go on a “real” vacation for just them.

Once I saw my partner, I told him I found another nice destination only two hours from our spot.

I told him I’d pay for our hotel and that I want to leave.

I told him I am overwhelmed from all the people and I am exhausted from the lack of sleep.

I want an actual vacation with him, not him + family.

His partner discussed the idea with his mom first.

My partner agreed at first. Then, he went to talk with his mom.

After he had this conversation with her, he became negative.

He started blaming me, telling me it’s my fault I’m like this and can’t handle people.

I told him that he himself had said we would have a vacation together, not me + him + his family.

Now, they’re not in speaking terms.

I offered for us to stay at one of my own houses and offered to pay for a hotel nearby.

He refused to talk to me and told me to leave him alone.

I did, and now, I’m wondering what the issue truly is.

AITA? Am I too sensitive?

Let’s find out what others have to say about this.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

This one makes a valid point.

Here’s an honest opinion from this person.

Time to leave him with his family, says this one.

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Finally, people are calling out the boyfriend for being a mama’s boy.

After initially blaming OP for struggling socially, his partner confronted his mother and agreed they would continue the vacation elsewhere.

Redditors supported OP, noting that requesting rest and private couple time was reasonable after the trip became an exhausting family gathering.

Once your romantic escape includes paper-thin walls, surprise dinner guests, and a bathroom-floor nap, the vacation has officially filed for bankruptcy.