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New relationships can inspire big changes, but responsible parents usually keep their children at the center of those decisions.

After less than six months, this man’s girlfriend announced that her two school-aged children would move in with their grandmother.

Her reason was not an emergency or major hardship; she simply wanted more freedom to stay at his place.

Romance just met a serious red flag.

AITAH for judging my GF for dumping her 2 kids on their grandmother so she could come spend more time with me?

I 35M have been dating a 37F since early Spring.

I didn’t really know if it would go anywhere because I travel a lot for work and pleasure so being in a traditional relationship isn’t something that works well for me at this time.

She’s an esthetician and can work around my schedule which is nice.

We have good chemistry but haven’t really defined what we are.

But then a very serious element dropped.

Very recently she told me that for the upcoming school year her son and daughter (grades 6 and 8) would be living with their grandmother so she could spend some more time with me at my place without worrying about her kids being safe.

On one hand I’m like wow that’s sweet that she really wants to spend more time with me but on the other hand I got this really weird feeling in my stomach thinking how could I be with a person who so casually pawns off mom duties so she can spend more time with a bf of less than 6 months?

I feel like I’ve been looking down upon her recently because of this.

I feel bad doing so but can’t help it.

Is he wrong for judging her for her parenting decision, or is this a red flag?

Let’s see what the comments on Reddit make of it.

There could be more to the story, or there could be a red flag.

Many found this suspicious.

Others put it to a crude science.

And ultimately said, “You’re assessing this just fine.”

This man is not wrong to question a mother willing to relocate her children primarily for the convenience of an undefined relationship.

He should confirm whether other family circumstances influenced her decision, but the explanation she offered is deeply concerning on its own.

So that’s how you brazenly outsource parenthood.