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Misunderstandings are common in relationships, but when you have a conversation via text, you have written proof of what the was actually communicated. In theory, you’d think that would be helpful when arguing about what was or was not communicated, right?
Not necessarily.
In this story, a boyfriend and girlfriend are arguing about where he was supposed to park his car when he spent the the weekend at her house. He interpreted her texts a different way than she intended for him to interpret them.
Keep reading for all the details.
AITA for taking the good parking spot?
I (31M) am staying at my GF’s (26F) house this weekend.
Normally we have an issue with parking because she has two roommates.
We’re constantly playing car tag to let people out.
I don’t mind because it’s a 2 minute annoyance.
Here’s more context about the parking situation.
Currently one roommate isn’t around so it’s just GF, 1st roommate, and me.
A note abut the driveway, it forks. There’s one way into it then half way up it goes left, under the carport and also right, up an annoying hill.
Nobody likes the hill but then again I don’t care.
My GF and I try to share whatever side of the driveway we’re on because we don’t want to be gone in one car then block someone in with the other or have the other be blocked in when we return.
OP parked based on his girlfriend’s texts.
On Friday afternoon I receive the follow texts from the GF
“and park behind me and leave room for [1st Roommate] to park behind you.” “NVM!” “Forget [1st Roommate] is staying at [her friends] all weekend and took dogs with her.” “It’s just us here until Sunday evening.”
I received the texts above as I was pulling in and saw her on the hill so I thought “cool, I can just pull under the carport and be fine.”
Fast forward to Saturday morning at 8 am and the 2nd Roommate I haven’t seen in over a week knocked on the bedroom door and is asking me to move.
He ended up getting in an argument with his girlfriend.
I gladly say “Yeah, just give me a sec” grabbed my keys and some sandals, and switched driveway sides in 2 minutes.
My GF didn’t mention to me that the 2nd Roommate was selling her lizards to someone and they wanted to be right next to the door as the tanks can be very heavy.
My GF and I then got into an argument. I read the “NVM!” as disregard everything, she read it as “disregard the pull up tight” part. I was supposed to know (based on the fact she hates the hill) that she would never park there unless she had to.
I figured she got the notice we were going to be alone all weekend after she parked or forgot the 1st roommate stuff until after she parked.
She was really upset.
She started giving me a hard time because I parked where I did.
I explained I was annoyed that she texted “It’s just us here until Sunday evening.” and never mentioned the 2nd roommate returning for the lizard stuff.
She said I never pay attention and can’t understand basic instructions or common sense.
He tried to explain his perspective.
I said she is incapable of being empathetic or understanding different points of view, how people can interpret things differently. That it was just a minor annoyance to have to move cars.
She got upset that I wasn’t willing to take a chiding from her and she went back to be.
Again, AITA for parking where I did?
Here’s the real question. Is the roommate upset? If not, what’s the big deal? just drop it.
Let’s see what Reddit has to say.
This person agrees with him.
Another person points out the roommate’s reaction.
This person thinks the girlfriend’s instructions weren’t clear.
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Everyone is on his side.
The texts are all the proof he needs that his girlfriend didn’t say what she meant. He didn’t misinterpret her texts. She didn’t communicate what she thought she had communicated.
In the end, it doesn’t really matter. The roommate doesn’t seem upset.
The problem has been resolved, so there’s no point in arguing.