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When you have a friend group, you should be able to trust that everyone is kind and respectful toward each other, but sadly, that is not always the case.

What would you do if you knew that a certain segment of the friend group were saying awful things about one of the girls that would be very hurtful?

That is the situation that the woman in this story was in, so she told the victim of the gossip about it, which caused her great pain and led her to leave the friend group. Now she wonders if she should have just kept her mouth shut.

Read through the full story below and see what you think about what is going on with these so-called friends.

AITA for telling my friend what her boyfriend’s friends were saying about her?

I have a friend named Britney who has been dating Michael for about a year. We met through a gaming Discord server and became close friends.

This is inappropriate.

Michael has a group of guy friends who have never liked Britney. They have a private group chat where they make crude “locker room” jokes.

Several of the jokes involved Britney supposedly cheating on Michael with another mutual friend they disliked. They would make sexual comments about her and this other guy.

All of this seems like teenage drama.

Britney eventually found out and was devastated that they were making fun of her. Michael never stood up for her or told them to stop.

Britney later created a girls-only Discord server. Michael’s friends hated the idea and even tried to gain access through their girlfriends’ accounts.

It is good that she is distancing herself from them.

Some of these guys used to be my friends too, but I distanced myself after seeing screenshots of the things they were saying.

Recently, I ran into one of them, Mitch, at an event. He tried talking to me, but I kept the conversation short. Afterward I messaged Britney telling her I had run into him.

Why not just cut these people out entirely? No need to talk to them at all.

She replied that he was the worst because he had started a lot of the drama involving her. I responded that Mitch and another guy, Brian, were sexist and openly disliked her girls-only server.

Not long after, Brian messaged me asking if I was talking trash about him and Mitch to Britney. I didn’t respond. Instead, I asked Britney if we could talk.

All of this seems exhausting.

I got another text saying “straight to britney”. Later we got on a voice call, and I asked whether Michael had access to her Discord because Brian somehow seemed to know about our conversation.

We came to the conclusion that Michael was likely reading our messages and sharing screenshots with his friends. During that call, I also told Britney something I had never shared before.

Wow, what a jerk.

Brian had once told me, “I wish I dated Britney so she’d fall hard for me, then I’d dump her and destroy her.”

I told her I couldn’t imagine staying close friends with someone who said something like that about the person I was dating, especially after Michael had already allowed his friends to joke about her without defending her.

Britney is right to remove herself from the drama.

Britney broke down crying and decided to step away from the community she had built.

Now I feel guilty. Part of me believes she deserved to know what was being said about her, but another part wonders if I should have stayed out of it because my honesty caused her so much pain.

AITA?

Honestly, all of this sounds very immature and hurtful. Even if they weren’t talking about me, I would want to remove myself from everyone in this group.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about this story.

Here is someone who says that she did the right thing.

This person wishes someone had told her that her boyfriend was a jerk.

Sometimes the truth hurts.

The guys in this story are immature and awful.

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These guys really seem like jerks.

She did the right thing by telling her friend about the gossip. And her friend did the right thing by distancing herself from the other people.

Hopefully, she will also break up with this guy, since he obviously does not treat her well.