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Some people show up for the good times and vanish the moment things get hard.

One family had grown used to a friendly older neighbor who regularly checked in on their father-in-law, helped move the trash cans, and exchanged casual waves for years.

When he passed away, though, that same neighbor never called, never texted, and skipped the wake entirely.

Weeks later, the family’s shared Ring doorbell caught him strolling up the driveway to help himself to a bag of tomatoes from the untended garden.

Nobody in the family had given him permission, and the group chat exploded with confusion almost instantly.

Keep reading for the full story.

Entitled neighbor

When my father-in-law was alive, he had a neighbor next door and one across the street, they were sisters. Their father lived down the block.

This homeowner further describes the neighbors.

The father is the older, and would occasionally stop in and check on Dad, or knock to tell him the garage was open.

The family generally was friendly and would wave. They would make small talk, even move Dad’s cans to the curb and back as a favor on garbage day.

But soon the neighbors grew noticeably colder.

When he passed, it was obvious, 5 cars parked out front, people crying. The funeral director came to get him.

No texts, no calls. No show at the wake. And now with the cleaning and real estate stuff, no one looks in any family member’s direction. It’s weird.

But the neighbors still felt entitled to the garden.

Today, we saw the father, on the Ring, come up the driveway and help himself to a bag of tomatoes.

He contacted no one in the family.

The ring is shared amongst 5 of us, and the group chat lit up. “Did anyone give Joe permission to raid Dad’s garden?”

Nope.

It didn’t even make sense why they would want to steal.

And this suburb is upscale. A fixer-upper starts at 500k, no one in this burb is hurting.

People are wild.

This is pretty unbelievable.

What did Reddit have to say?

The rest of the family need to set these neighbors straight.

This user doesn’t seem to think it’s that big of a deal.

This commenter suggests an idea that’s easier said than done.

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Maybe some people aren’t good at introducing themselves first.

Not all friendships are meant to be deep, but at least a text after the passing would have been nice.

Had the neighbor attended the wake, maybe him showing up unannounced for tomatoes would have made a little more sense.

But considering the cold response, nobody accidentally strolls up a driveway for vegetables without knowing exactly whose house it is.

This is a strange one, for sure.