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Folks, here’s an important piece of life advice: if you’re in a relationship with someone and they tell you NOT to do something, don’t do it!

You’ll be saving yourself all kinds of headaches and heartbreak!

And, I know this sounds crazy, but it’s important to LISTEN.

What a concept, right?

In today’s story, a man opened up about why he’s pretty upset with his boyfriend…because he didn’t listen to him!

Read on and see what you think.

AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend because of his birthday gift?

“I (m,30) grew up in an abusive household.

I used to enjoy celebrating birthdays but now I have only negative feelings. My parents had a big argument during my birthday party when I was 11 and they made a scene. All my friends left in a very awkward situation.

During my 13th birthday, they fought and my mom threw my cake at the wall and walked out, then my dad left the house and didn’t return for over a week. Just some of the examples off the top of my head.

It makes sense…

I grew up not caring about birthdays and I tried to avoid it as much as I can. None of my friends know when my bday is and I deliberately keep it a secret. Big deals annoy me.

My bf (m,31) and I have been dating for nearly a year now, and he just cares TOO MUCH about it. His bday was last month during a weekday, but we only see each other on the weekends, so I celebrated his bday a few days earlier and gave his gifts then.

It wasn’t anything big, just a shirt that suits his style, and a Manga book. I didn’t send a special message on his bday because in my mind we already celebrated it. But he said the day after that he was a tad disappointed that I didn’t send him a special message.

He’s trying…

I said he was right and I am just learning the bday customs with him. I am a bit uncomfortable about bdays as a whole, but not as much as I imagined I’d be.

Anyway, last week was my birthday.

The week prior, I told him that he doesn’t need to do anything big about it. I don’t really care much about it. He didn’t take me seriously first.

He thought I was being humble but I was being honest.

On my bday, he called me after work and asked how work was. I said usual stuff and he was surprised no one celebrated my bday. I rolled my eyes and said no one knows when my bday is and I don’t want people to know. I don’t feel comfortable celebrating it in public like that.

He wasn’t taking the hint…

I explained to him numerous times how I don’t like it, but he just doesn’t comprehend the idea of someone actually not caring about bdays. I find it a tad difficult to explain him so many times only for him to not get it.

Last weekend he said he had a surprise and I said I hope it’s not anything big. Turns out it was something too big.

I don’t want to give too many details but his bday idea was celebrating it on a cruise ship with a lot of strangers around and have my name written somewhere a lot of people I don’t know will see.

He is NOT cool with this.

Not only is it uncomfortable, I also find it irresponsible to spend such money for something as useless as this. I would rather save that money and invest for our future.

Our goal is to buy a house and it is nearly impossible today, so we can’t spend too much money on useless stuff like that.

I cancelled the events and said I’m sorry but you just don’t get it. Been thinking about it and said I don’t think this relationship works.

AITA?”

Reddit users spoke up.

This person had a lot to say.

Another individual weighed in.

This reader spoke up.

Another Reddit user shared their thoughts.

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And this person said he’s to blame.

All his boyfriend had to do was listen…

This isn’t that complicated, people!

Maybe these two aren’t a good fit for each other.

He’s definitely not on the same page as his boyfriend when it comes to this stuff…