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There’s only so much effort you can put into inviting someone who never responds.

For one mother-in-law, that frustration had been building for a while because her daughter-in-law was terrible about answering texts and calls.

She had already tried talking to her and even found herself going through her son just to get an answer.

So, when the women in the family planned a night out, she sent one text and decided she wasn’t chasing anyone down this time.

Her daughter-in-law never responded, but once she saw the pictures online, she got angry that everyone had gone without her.

Read on for the rest of the story.

AITA for sending my DIL a single text and then hung out without her

I have been having issues with my DIL recently. She is awful at communicating. She has ADHD and never responds to texts or calls. It is frustrating and annoying. It makes planning almost anything feel like pulling teeth.

One recent example: My son’s birthday was two months ago. I texted and tried to call her to ask if he had a collectible (he is a big collector). She never got back to me. I bought it anyways, and he already had it.

Another example: inviting her to a girls’ night. I had to call my son to ask her, and yes, she wanted to go because she wasn’t checking her phone. I feel like I am communicating with a child.

Then, the call came in.

I have talked to my son and her. Nothing has changed. I am tired of trying to chase her down for an answer and getting no response. She does it with everyone.

So I decided that I was only going to send a single invite to things, and that was it.

Two weeks ago, I sent her a text saying the women in the family were going to get drinks yesterday. She never responded. I took that as a no, and we got drinks without her.

People posted pictures online, and I got a ******-off call today. She was upset that she wasn’t there. I told her I invited her, and it’s not my fault she missed out.

Now, she’s not sure what to do.

We got into an argument about me not tracking her down, and I told her she is a grown adult.

My son called me soon after and said I could be more accommodating due to ADHD and that I know she has trouble with communicating. I told him that isn’t my problem.

He wants me to apologize, and I don’t think I did anything wrong. I don’t apologize if I don’t mean it.

AITA?

Wowzers. Why does she even have a phone?

Let’s see how the readers over at Reddit feel about what’s going on here.

Here’s how this person handles these situations.

This reader also has ADHD.

That’s a great suggestion.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a mom who thinks her daughter should have planned a whole two-week vacation around her needs.

Yes, this could also work.

This really isn’t on her.

At some point, her daughter-in-law has to take some responsibility for checking her phone and answering people.

And while having ADHD can make that harder, it doesn’t mean you can blame everyone else if you mess up.

If she wants to be included, she has to meet people halfway.