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Marriage vows mention sickness and health, but actually following through on them? Results may vary.

One woman had spent a year battling a painful, disorienting health condition, one that left her unable to drive herself to appointments three hours away, and now faced a brain angiogram she was already terrified of.

But when she asked her husband to take a single day off to stay home with her afterward, he told her it conflicted with a coworker’s last day at work, insisting she was simply overthinking the whole thing.

You’ll want to read on — Redditors had some pretty strong opinions on this one.

AITA for asking my husband to take the day off following a brain procedure?

I (41F) and my husband (41M) have been married for 16 years. For a year, I have been struggling with a health condition which has taken a toll on me and my marriage.

She further explains the struggles she’s been experiencing.

I was diagnosed with IIH, and the medication and side effects have taken over my life. I have migraines, shoulder and neck pain, dizziness…pretty much everything that someone experiences with this condition.

Needless to say, this has taken quite a toll on her in every conceivable way.

I’ve gone from doctor to doctor and finally found someone who will take my condition seriously. My doctors are three hours away and would require my husband to go with me, as sometimes my head hurts or I can’t drive from these symptoms.

Soon she had an appointment in the calendar that was bringing her a lot of concern.

About a month ago, I was scheduled to have a brain angiogram/MRV in early October. I’ve been nervous and anxious about this procedure for a while. It’s been affecting me pretty badly, and now the week is here.

But her husband’s responsibilities have also been ratcheting up at his job.

My husband works for the federal government (LEO), and his coworker has taken the month off due to him retiring at the beginning of October. My husband has been working a lot more and has more responsibilities handed to him.

So when she asked him to go with her to the appointment, she wasn’t a fan of his response.

This past weekend, I asked my husband if he could take Friday off, as I have been told that I may need to stay home due to this procedure. He told me, “It’s Al’s last day, I can’t take the day off.”

I told him I am nervous about staying home alone after this procedure.

That’s when her husband decided to write her off entirely.

He then told me I have been overthinking this procedure and I would be fine.

I asked him about staying home again, and he said they’ve had this event planned out for a while. I told him I was sorry for scheduling this procedure on the wrong day, but I need to get this done.

Begrudgingly, he finally agreed, but it put a real bad taste in her mouth.

We’ve been arguing about it, and I finally said, “Fine, I will just stay home alone.” He hasn’t said much to me since. My closest family is four hours away.

AITA for getting mad at him for not staying home with me?

This relationship is showing some major red flags.

What did Reddit have to say?

This commenter can hardly believe what they’re reading.

Brain-related procedures are nothing to mess around about.

If her husband can’t support her, then someone else needs to.

Maybe it’s time to reconsider the marriage as a whole.

Calling a wife’s fear about a brain procedure “overthinking” is a pretty bold move for someone who apparently can’t say no to a retirement lunch.

A brain angiogram is not a routine errand, and needing your spouse home afterward is about as reasonable as marriage requests get.

The retirement party will happen with or without him, but a wife recovering alone from a serious procedure doesn’t get a do-over.

Sixteen years of marriage should count for more than this.