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There’s only so far you can go to help people out who aren’t exactly keen on bettering themselves.
And, at some point, people like that have no problem at all taking advantage of the kindness of others.
It’s pretty offensive when you think about it!
But we hear stories like this all the time…
In today’s story, a woman explained why she’s at the end of her rope when it comes to helping out her friend.
Read on and see what you think.
WIBTA for not wanting to help my friend with groceries anymore?
“I (26F) have a good friend (28F). We’ll call her Jane.
Jane has a household of 4, struggle with bills in general because of poor money management combined with her boyfriend of 10+ years not working. They’ve been behind on rent every month for the past 5 months, and I just want to help my friend with some of the burden. They have two children, 5 and 7.
She’s helped her out A LOT.
Her boyfriend doesn’t work while Jane works 45 hours/week and provides for the entire household. For the past 3 months I’ve helped Jane buy anywhere from $150-350 in groceries every month.
And sometimes I get an additional $50-100 in groceries for “forgotten items.” I really have a soft spot for her two children who are the real ones suffering.
Today I purchased $250 in groceries. I have a problem with some of the items she’s buying. I never say anything because however she chooses to feed her family is up to her, but instead of buying groceries that will last.
She’s buying microwaved/freezer foods, snacks, chips, drinks, etc. THAT part I only have a slight problem with because it never lasts. But I do have a problem when she buys things like ribeyes, chuck beef roast, prime rib, and then complains when certain items are out of stock or substituted.
She has a point…
The best way I could describe how I feel about it is, why buy these items with my money, but when you were buying your own groceries you shop very modestly? It’s like when you treat your friend to dinner and they order surf and turf when they’d usually order a burger on their own dime.
Would I be wrong if I told her hey, this will be the last time I’m able to get you all groceries …?
I don’t want to stop being her friend I was just hoping my help would give her a chance to catch up on her rent!
But I feel like she’s taking advantage a bit.”
Here’s what folks had to say on Reddit.
This person weighed in.
Another Reddit user said she’s NTA.
This reader agreed.
Another individual spoke up.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a brother who is upset his parents bought his recovering sister a brand-new car but wouldn’t help him out with a used one.
And this Reddit user shared their thoughts.
She’s been going above and beyond for her friend for a long time…
But maybe it’s time to put an end to her charity…
I sure think so!
It sounds like her friend is definitely taking advantage of her kindness…