Step-families can get complicated especially when jealousy and competition enters the chat.
This step-sisters got bitter for a lot of reasons.
Find out what happened!
AITA for refusing to hang out less with my brothers because of my stepsister?
I (18F) am the youngest of four siblings.
I have three older brothers Michael (28M), John (27M), and Chris (25M).
Our mother passed away when I was 8, and since then, my father (53M) and my brothers have been quite protective of me.
She had a wholesome relationship with her father and siblings.
I had father-daughter date nights with my dad and movie nights with my brothers, among other things.
I think that was their way of making sure I didn’t feel lonely.
Last year, my father got married to Melissa (45F). She, with her daughter Ashley (18F) moved in with us. I always got the sense that Ashley didn’t like me.
Ashley was very biased!
She would talk to my dad and my brothers but she never talked to me. Whenever I tried to talk to her, she would answer curtly and then walk away.
I never understood why, or if I did something to her, but after a few weeks of trying to get along with her without success, I gave up.
We were civil to each other and that was enough.
My brothers were also on the fence about her.
No one really wanted her to meddle in family outings.
She keeps insisting to be invited to our movie nights, but she would always demand to see a movie she liked even if none of us liked it.
Also she kept trying to cuddle with my brothers which they find uncomfortable and weird because they don’t really know her.
Chris actually told her to knock it off because he didn’t like that she was so touchy with him.
Recently I had my 18th birthday, It was fun and low-key and I got wonderful gifts.
She was way too unreasonable on her sister’s birthday.
The next day Ashley came to me and told me that it was unfair that my brothers’ gifts to me were better than their gifts to her for her birthday last June.
For context my brothers EACH gave her a 200$ give card to different stores so she can buy what she liked, because they didn’t really know her.
They gave her gifts to be civil.
The brother’s wanted their space from the step-sister.
My brothers got me a personalized perfume, a signed copy of an entire book series that I’ve been obsessed about lately, and a personalized planner with messages and quotes on each page.
I will admit that they put more thoughts into my gifts but I think it’s fair since they don’t really know her.
But then Ashley started crying saying that I always got everything and she got nothing and she then demanded I stop hanging out with them and said that if I didn’t hang out with my brothers so much, then they would pay more attention to her.
She wanted equal treatment!
She also wanted me to tell them to treat her like they treated me because she was also their sister now.
I told her that I won’t force my brothers to do something they didn’t like.
She insisted that I call my brothers right that moment, to tell them that I would hang out less with them and that they should get Ashley better gifts.
Ashley took it way too ahead.
I refused.
Apparently she told her friends and cousins, because I’ve been getting messages from them telling me I’m a spoiled, selfish kid, so I’m second guessing myself.
She’s expecting too much.
Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this story.
Brothers know their boundaries when their stepsibling.
This user thinks Ashley can be dangerous with her stories.
This person knows that relationships between these siblings is bound to be different!
This girl should confront the dad right away.
On point! Ashley is being very shady!
Ashley needs to realize she can’t have everything instantly.
Maybe if she gave this more time, things would get smooth between her and the siblings.
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