Divorces can be tricky to navigate — but when kids are involved, it’s another ballgame.

In today’s story, one Redditor navigates her way through custody battle landmines. It ultimately works out in her favor, but first, there’s a lot of drama!

See how the story unfolds…

401k With A Side Of Revenge

When our first child was born, my ex forced me to quit my job.

When our second child was 2, I found out about his affair.

By then, he was extremely verbally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abusive.

It got even worse…

When he abused our first born, I put him out.

That was in 2012.

I couldn’t afford daycare to work and had no family support.

He refused to give me any money to take care of the kids saying, “The courts haven’t ordered me to give you a dime!”

He lied to the bank and had my accounts frozen and even assaulted me when I filed for default in the divorce.

The judge was on OP’s side.

The judge finally ordered him to pay child and spousal support 6 months after I kicked him out.

It was $2,562 a month.

He refused to pay it until the garnishment kicked in and, by then, he was 6k behind in support.

I used that to get permission to move away.

Things started to look up.

I remarried a year after the divorce.

I checked the court docs, and there was a little box that said spousal support stopped upon remarriage if that box was checked.

It wasn’t checked, so I figured I was good.

Instead of filing for his retirement, I just took that year of spousal support (12k) and left it alone. (Spousal support was only ordered for 2 years)

The judge was still on OP’s side!

In 2017, he filed for sole custody of the kids out of nowhere.

That was when he found out I had remarried, and he had paid spousal support to me during the first year of my marriage.

I told him I took that money instead of filing for my share of his retirement. I said if he let me keep that 12k, I wouldn’t file to split his 401k.

He demanded that I repay the spousal support.

The judge ordered me to repay it but increased child support and deducted the repayment from that.

It ended up that I got an extra $20 a month, and he repaid himself.

The ex is digging himself into a bigger hole.

He dropped his bid for custody in exchange for 2 extra weeks in summer.

I pursued the retirement account split.

He refused to cooperate and dragged it out for 4 years.

It was so bad, they sanctioned him, and he had to pay me $600 a month for a year in addition to child support.

They also charged him with contempt.

She ended up getting paid much more than she expected.

In Jan 2021, he proposed to his girlfriend.

In May of 2021, I finally got the disbursement from his 401k. I won’t say how much it was, but it was about 4 times the amount of spousal support overpayment.

I had no idea it would be that much.

I had thought it would be around 12k, which is why I thought keeping that year of spousal and not filing for his retirement account was a fair trade.

The ex’s fiancé called.

Had he not tried to take the kids from me, I never would’ve filed to split the account.

Play stupid games…win stupid prizes.

His fiancé emailed me recently and told me it is my fault he won’t marry her because I cleaned out his retirement account.

She said I shouldn’t have “stolen” his money.

The fiancé sounds pretty stupid!

I told her that I gave him the option to let me keep that year of spousal support or take it back, and I could file for his retirement. He chose to have me file for his retirement.

I told her that if he really wanted to marry her and protect his assets, they could get a pre-nup so he wouldn’t have to worry about it.

She said she shouldn’t have to sign a pre-nup because I “robbed” him.

It was really her ex’s fault.

I never asked to be financially dependent on him.

He clearly indicated he wanted a court order to take care of his kids so I got him one.

I tried to be fair and take the lesser amount by taking the spousal support and not filing for his retirement.

He wouldn’t let me.

That’s a lot of post divorce drama! The fiancé should run!

What does Reddit think about this situation? Is the math mathing for this child support court storm?

Redditors noticed that “karma” had taken place.

Other readers mentioned things could be worse for this ex…

Some even dreamed up their own revenge plan.

And finally, people broke down the justice of this woman’s situation.

This ex deserved everything that came to him, if not more.

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