How many times are you supposed to ask someone to marry you before you finally give up and throw in the towel?

I’d say once might be enough, but the guy you’re going to hear from in this story got rejected twice and he decided to call it quits.

Is he acting like a jerk?

Let’s see what’s going on here…

AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend after she rejected my proposal twice?

“Sierra and I have been dating for 4 years.

I absolutely love her and felt like she was my soulmate. I knew I wanted to propose 2 years into dating, but decided to wait one more year so that I could get in a better situation financially.

Last year, I proposed. It was a private proposal on the beach where we went on our first date.

Uh oh…

She looked at me and said, I want to marry you, but not right now. She said she wasn’t in the right space personally to get engaged and to give her some time.

That stung, but I was ok with it. After all, I put off proposing so I can be in a good position, it’s only fair I give her the chance.

It’s been a year since then and I decided to propose again. This time I asked our friends to help me set it up because I wanted to do something nicer. We orchestrated a nice dinner and a proposal in front of a nice fountain in the city’s botanical garden.

Everything was ready, dinner went great, and we went to the fountain.

Not again!

She saw the roses and everything and then I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me. She teared up and told me “not just yet.”

This stung really bad. I knew I wanted her in my life forever, but this is the second time she turned me down. I asked her why, and she told me the same thing as last year.

I asked her if someone was holding her back, maybe family or friend, and she just said “I just want to make sure that this will work.”

This hurt me more than the 2 rejections. I told her if after 4 years she isn’t sure, then what will make her sure.

No more!

She asked me to give her time and I told her no. I told her that I’m not gonna keep wasting my time and love if she’s gonna keep saying no. I told her that I can’t do this anymore.

She began begging me not to leave and said “Fine, I’ll marry you, just please don’t go.” That made me mad, but I didn’t say anything. I left.

My phone has been blowing up with some of our friends, her parents, and her telling me that I’m “an ******* for throwing away a 4 year relationship because she said no, and that I was being a big baby. She just needs some time.”

The other half of our friends aren’t on my side, but they’re not on hers either.

I don’t think I’m an ******* for this. Did I overreact?

AITA?

If so, how much more time am I supposed to give her?”

And here’s what folks had to say on Reddit.

This person shared their thoughts.

Another reader had a lot to say.

This individual spoke up.

Another Reddit user chimed in.

And this person said he’s NTA.

The third time will NOT be the charm this time.

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