When someone gets you something to eat, it is generally considered gross for them to touch your food with their fingers if it isn’t strictly necessary.

What would you do if your friend put ketchup on your food and then rubbed it around with her finger?

That is what happened to the hungry friend in this story, so she said it was gross, and now these two are in a big argument about it.

AITA for telling my friend it’s disgusting to spread ketchup on pie with their finger?

So this happened a couple days ago, and I’m still kind of weirded out by it.

So far, so good.

I (21F) was hanging out with my friend “Kayla” (22F) at her place. We were having a super chill night, movies, snacks, and she offered to heat up some meat pies she had made. I said yes because Kayla’s actually a decent cook and I was hungry.

Anyway, the pies come out, and she asks if I want ketchup on mine. I say sure. I figured she’d just hand me the bottle or squirt some on top.

That is definitely gross.

But instead, she squirts a big glob of ketchup onto her own pie, then spreads it around with her bare finger like she was icing a cake. And then she does the same to mine before I can say anything.

I was honestly taken aback. I asked, “Did you just use your finger to spread that?” She kind of laughed and said, “Yeah? It’s just ketchup, relax.”

I guess technically it isn’t a big deal, but it just seems wrong to do.

I told her it was kind of gross and I’d prefer she not do that to my food. She rolled her eyes and said I was being dramatic, that it’s no different than finger food, and that I was being “weirdly stuck up” about it. I told her I just don’t like the idea of someone else’s bare finger in my food, especially when there are literally knives or spoons right there.

It turned into this awkward little spat where she accused me of judging her, I was more so just disgusted at the general view of watching her do it, and the fact that I’m already somewhat grossed out by ketchup really didn’t help the fact. It ended up turning into a stupidly serious argument, and she was cold for the rest of the night.

I would say that she did overreact, even if she was right.

I tried talking to her the other day, but she hasn’t responded to my texts. When I told my boyfriend about it later, he kind of laughed and said yeah, it’s weird, but maybe I overreacted by making her feel bad about it.

So now I’m wondering… was I being too uptight? I still hold the opinion that it was gross but maybe I made it too big a deal? Was I wrong for calling her out on using her finger to spread ketchup on my food?

AITA?

What she did is kind of gross, but so is almost everything about food if you think about it too much. It sounds like maybe she did overreact, but so did her friend. Hopefully it will all blow over.

Let’s see what the people in the comments think about this situation.

This commenter says it is disgusting.

This person says they wouldn’t have a big issue with it.

Yes, never do it to someone else’s pie.

I would be weirded out by it as well.

This person does it to her own pies.

Eating is always gross, but this goes to a new level.

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