Going on a trip with your significant other can be fun, but it can also be stressful. Going every week is a whole other story.

How do you handle the division of labor in group travel? Do you take turns planning, navigating and driving?

One guy recently asked for insight on exactly this. He travels a lot with his girlfriend, and they’re no longer seeing eye to eye.

Here are the details.

AITA for asking my girlfriend to pack my food for travel if I’ll be the only one driving?

24M & 24F, in relationship since 3.5 yrs.

Currently, we work in the same city but live separately (planning to move in together soon).

We like to travel.

They travel a lot.

I have a hatchback.

So we travel almost every week to a temple around 1.5 hours far away from one side.

We like that place as it also provides scenic views, activities like trekking, rope ways, vivid market etc.

It takes a total of 3 hours of driving.

Sounds exhausting no matter how long the drive.

Sounds little, but it’s tiring as the temple is situated on hills.

So roads are just 2 lane, curvy and demands 101% attention of the driver.

Mentally & physically exhausting.

She knows driving, but isn’t confident enough to drive on that path, that too with a vehicle she isn’t used to enough (my car).

He does all the driving.

She doesn’t a car her right now. So obviously, the responsibility of driving has totally fallen on me.

We start the journey early in the morning due to less traffic and calm environment.

Come back by the evening.

Seems like a good use of the day.

So, we wake up at around 4:00 AM, start the journey by 5:30. Note that my nature is to keep load roughly fair on each other.

We pack one time’s food.

(We do things on a budget).

He made a suggestion.

So I proposed to her the idea of taking responsibility of our food (basically pack my one time food too) just like I’m taking 100% load of driving.

It will make things more balanced and it will enable me to wake up at 4:30 instead, an extra 30 mins sleep.

But she didn’t agree at all and said that packing our own food sounds “equal” to her.

The frustration is valid, but it’s apples and oranges.

Hearing that internally made me angry, because she’s talking about fairness when it comes to packing food, but doesn’t apply it to driving.

So, to me, it became more about fairness than food.

I can’t push her to take part in driving, as it’s a risk for everyone’s safety. I can only do that with food.

Yikes, that escalated quickly.

I initially kept my cool, respectfully presented my thoughts and was ready for a calm discussion.

But she became annoyed soon and wasn’t as polite as me, said I eat double than her.

We ended up having a verbal fight.

Now nobody initiates a talk about travel. AITA here?

Seems like there has to be an obvious solution here. Let’s see what Redditors had to say.

A few immediately pointed out the obvious.

Some were on the original poster’s side.

One person brought some much-needed nuance.

Others asked important questions.

And some simply felt all were in the wrong.

All’s fair in love and road trips.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.