Every bride deserves a peaceful wedding without disruptions.

This bride-to-be is considering uninviting her cousin’s family because his cousin has a disability that make him disruptive. But she doesn’t want to seem mean, so she’s unsure what to do.

Read the full story below and weigh in.

WIBTA If I didn’t invite my cousin to my wedding because of his disability?

My fiancée (30M) and I (29F) are getting married next May. We are trying to organise our guest list because we have found a venue we really love that has a guest limit of 120 people.

This is a bit difficult, given we both have big families; however, we really like the idea of a smaller, more intimate wedding.

For this reason, we’ve had to cut down our guest list quite a bit and have decided, as a result, not to invite any young children (under 16), except for our immediate family and our flower girl.

Our dilemma is this: I have cousins with whom we are very close and whom I would really want at the wedding; however, they have a son (I will call him Lucas) who has Down Syndrome and autism.

Because of this, Lucas can become very overstimulated around large groups of people and may scream loudly as a result. He is also quite destructive and may do things like pull at tablecloths while everything is still on the table or throw drinking glasses.

The venue also requires a bond to be paid if anything is damaged or if any extreme messes are made, so I am quite worried about this. Lucas is also 20 years old, despite having the mental age of a two-year-old.

This bride does not know what to do about her cousin and his family.

I don’t know if his parents would even bring him to the wedding, as he requires constant supervision.

However, I don’t know how I could not invite him without coming across as rude or mean, given that they have one other son who lives with them, whom I would invite (he is also over 20 years old).

It’s not that we don’t want Lucas there, I just really don’t want anything to detract from key parts of my and my fiancée’s day, such as screaming or things being broken.

I also can’t tell Lucas’s mother that I’m worried about him being destructive at our wedding, as I feel that WOULD make me a jerk; however, I also don’t feel comfortable asking whether she is planning to bring him. I really don’t know what to do.

Would I be the jerk if I invited my cousin and the rest of her family and left Lucas’s name off the invitation? What could I do in this situation?

Tough situation. But go with what your heart tells you.

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And some helpful insight from this parent.

Honest communication would not hurt in this case.

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